Post # 1
This is just a mini-rant from a guest’s point of view. Don’t take it personal if you have similar plans as everyone will have different opinions on the matter. 😉 I’m mostly ranting because I know I could never say anything to anyone in the “real world” about it!
I went to a wedding recently and it was beautiful. All the little details were fantastic, the ceremony was heartfelt and the cake was delicious.
The cocktail hour came and went and we went down for some family pictures. Fantastic.
As we were finishing the salad course the Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor got up to give their speeches. They were short and sweet and everyone was holding back happy tears.
Then the DJ did the worst thing I’ve ever witnessed – he invited anyone who’d like to give a speech to come up and do so. We had to sit and listen to no less than two straight hours of talking – no hyperbole there. Most of the speakers we didn’t know because they were college buddies or old Aunt Edna from down south so it was hard to pay attention.
It really wouldn’t have been that bad but it was two hours without food and no one wanted to get up so as to not be rude. The wait staff didn’t want to serve dinner while the speeches were going and by the time we got our food it was ice cold.
It was a fairly short reception to begin with so after everything was said and done there was only an hour of dancing at the end.
As a fair warning… Please limit the speeches!!
Post # 3
I also attended a wedding with a speech free-for-all, and while it wasn’t as bad as yours, it still went on way too long! I have seen so many DJs do questionable things at weddings… it’s almost making me want to skip one entirely!
Post # 4
The only speeches at our wedding will be planned ones.
However, we are allowing anyone who wants to speak to say something at the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 5
Wow, that is crazy!!! We had 2 friends give speeches, and they lasted about 3 minutes total. That’s good enough for me!!
Post # 6
Yeah…..speeches will be limited to my father, Father-In-Law, best man and Maid/Matron of Honor
Post # 7
Swedish formal dinners are loaded with speeches. I bet you couldn’t do a wedding without at least a dozen. One of the bride’s parents (usually the father) and one of the groom’s parents (usually the mother), at least one each of the bridal and groom’s parties, and a thank you speech (usually by the groom’s father), plus anyone else that wants to make one is welcome, so it’s common for siblings, close friends, and other relatives to speak.
Usually the speeches are prepared and it’s all scheduled in advance, though, and they occur throughout the dinner, with spaces for people to eat and converse, rather than as a big block before the food is served. Also there are toasts and pauses for singing songs.
Post # 8
Two hours?! I can’t even imagine…
Post # 9
We only had our best man and Maid/Matron of Honor give speeches. YIkes!
Post # 10
Woah! Less is more when it comes to speeches. A couple heartfelt ones are festive and fun but more than that forget it! Will definitely make a note to tell the DJ that an open call for speeches is a no-no!
Post # 11
I’m all for the heartfelt family speeches. They make everyone laugh and cry and all that good stuff. When it comes to the inside jokes from college and getting up and simply praying for 10 minutes (that happened also) I just get bored. Then I feel bad for being unattentive and the cycle continues…
There were about 80 people in attendance and at least thirty (I started counting after ten) got up to speak. It was crazy!
Post # 12
Ouch. That definitely needs to be better coordinated. If someone’s going to have open speeches like that, they should have a toastmaster coordinating so you don’t end up with the 2 hour block of boredom.
Post # 13
I prefer short and sweet, and then it’s time to celebrate! Also, limit the alcohol before giving a speech! The fourth of six speakers (even though only four were scheduled) at my sister’s wedding was so inappropriate it essentially pissed my dad off for the rest of the night!
Post # 14
@dcdt212: Agreed and add an amen to that!
I attended a wedding last May where the best man rambled on for 45 minutes and included several drunken/puking stories and drove the point home that at first the groom wasn’t attracted to the bride. Yeah, not so pleasant.
Post # 15
Wow I have never heard of this, nor will this be taking place at our wedding. I can see how this would be annoying. I mean if thats your cup of tea awesome do it, its your day, but its not for me!!
Post # 16
Ya I could tell I wasn’t the only one getting annoyed but the line of speakers didn’t catch on that it was time to sit down! Luckily there really weren’t any drunken speeches. It was an open bar but everyone was behaving very well. Everyone wanted to show how much love they had for the bride and groom but some of the speeches should have been given in private. After the speeches we were all getting down of the dance floor. I wish we could have had more time for the fun!