(Closed) PSA: Please limit the speeches!!

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
597 posts
Busy bee

I also attended a wedding with a speech free-for-all, and while it wasn’t as bad as yours, it still went on way too long! I have seen so many DJs do questionable things at weddings… it’s almost making me want to skip one entirely!

Post # 4
8735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

The only speeches at our wedding will be planned ones.

However, we are allowing anyone who wants to speak to say something at the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 5
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow, that is crazy!!! We had 2 friends give speeches, and they lasted about 3 minutes total. That’s good enough for me!!

Post # 6
1987 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yeah…..speeches will be limited to my father, Father-In-Law, best man and Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 7
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Swedish formal dinners are loaded with speeches. I bet you couldn’t do a wedding without at least a dozen. One of the bride’s parents (usually the father) and one of the groom’s parents (usually the mother), at least one each of the bridal and groom’s parties, and a thank you speech (usually by the groom’s father), plus anyone else that wants to make one is welcome, so it’s common for siblings, close friends, and other relatives to speak.

Usually the speeches are prepared and it’s all scheduled in advance, though, and they occur throughout the dinner, with spaces for people to eat and converse, rather than as a big block before the food is served. Also there are toasts and pauses for singing songs.

Post # 8
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Two hours?! I can’t even imagine…

Post # 9
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We only had our best man and Maid/Matron of Honor give speeches. YIkes!

Post # 10
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Woah!  Less is more when it comes to speeches.  A couple heartfelt ones are festive and fun but more than that forget it!  Will definitely make a note to tell the DJ that an open call for speeches is a no-no!

Post # 12
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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Ouch. That definitely needs to be better coordinated. If someone’s going to have open speeches like that, they should have a toastmaster coordinating so you don’t end up with the 2 hour block of boredom.

Post # 13
40 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I prefer short and sweet, and then it’s time to celebrate! Also, limit the alcohol before giving a speech! The fourth of six speakers (even though only four were scheduled) at my sister’s wedding was so inappropriate it essentially pissed my dad off for the rest of the night!

Post # 14
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@dcdt212: Agreed and add an amen to that!

I attended a wedding last May where the best man rambled on for 45 minutes and included several drunken/puking stories and drove the point home that at first the groom wasn’t attracted to the bride. Yeah, not so pleasant.

Post # 15
5109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow I have never heard of this, nor will this be taking place at our wedding. I can see how this would be annoying. I mean if thats your cup of tea awesome do it, its your day, but its not for me!!

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