- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
A bit of the story: My husband hired someone many years ago, and became friends with him (let’s call him M.) We went to their kids birthday parties, they came to our parties, we went to his citizenship ceremony, etc. So I would have considered them good friends of the family. A couple years ago, the wife all of a sudden deleted myself and my husband off Facebook. Okay whatever, we thought. She was a bit strange but it didn’t matter. We were still invited to a couple events after that, so I didn’t really think much of it. But then we stopped getting the invites, however my Darling Husband and M still were “work buds.”
A few weeks ago, Darling Husband talked to M about giving him more responsibilities/raise at work for a certain position. M said he was happy where he was (weird, who wouldn’t want to make more money?) Then another, position came up (my DH’s old position, as he was promoted.) M was not qualified for this one, so Darling Husband promated someone else who’s worked there for less time, but shows a lot of potential. Well when M found out, he went nutzo (even though he is in no way qualified/was not considered a candidate.) He threatened to quit, said he needed several days off to “process the news” and even went as far as writing an extremely long email to the owner of the company, threatening to quit, and saying how poorly he was being treated, how he never gets opportunities like the others and how his supervisor (my DH) is racist. (Side note, I am bi-racial so there is one indication my Darling Husband is not racist and obviously from being together for almost 8 years, if he were racist, I’m sure I would have seen this side by now. But I digress.) This is a fairly large company, and not even my Darling Husband who’s worked there for over 11 years has had a real conversation with the owner. Anyway, the owner forwarded this email to the VP, who then forwarded it to my Darling Husband and said “Sounds like sour grapes, just let him go.” So clearly taking sides with my Darling Husband.
So M quits, makes some comments on his own Facebook page about how happy he is and then deletes Darling Husband and I from it. Cool.
So fast forward to yesterday…Darling Husband sends me a text at work saying that he gets a phone call from a potential employer asking for a reference for M. Darling Husband was shocked because M left on such bad terms, and Darling Husband would have never agreed to be a reference, even if he asked. Darling Husband said I’m sorry I can’t do that, and that was the end of that. It’s apparently frowned upon (illegal perhaps?) to give a bad reference, so instead Darling Husband just says he can’t. I asked what company it was for, but Darling Husband didn’t hear so he just left it at that. One of DH’s best friends (T) also gets a call, (T also used to work for my Darling Husband, but has since started his own business, so M probably thought he would give him a good reference) and finds out it’s for a school bus company as a driver. Darling Husband calls me about 20 minutes ago to tell me and my jaw drops. M is for one a horrible driver, he gets stressed out super easily and has had many temper tantrums at work. M also told Darling Husband many stories about how he couldn’t handle his two kids, he even moved into my MIL’s house for a while to get a break from his wife and kids. I do not believe he would excel in this position, based on his characteristics, and it actually frightens me to think he may be driving children around. We live in a city of over 1 million people and the traffic can be quite bad at times, especially in the winter…the stress levels will be high, I’m sure.
So I guess my question is, does anyone know what kind of screening potential bus drivers go through? I obviously know there is nothing I can do, but it scares me to think he could possibly become a driver, and have a meltdown and endanger the kids.