Post # 1
Do any bees suffer from PTSD? I don’t personally know anyone else who struggles with trauma and so I sometimes feel very alone in my experiences. For those that do, what are your coping methods and how does it impact your relationship with your partner?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
Hi Bee. I do suffer from PTSD. I was diagnosed about 4 years ago. I however been recently put on meds for it, finally. Struggling day to day from it can really wear you do. I have done alot of work on it. Going to a therepy for it really helped. She got taught me alot. My finace’ is very supportive especially around fourth of July ( lots of fireworks) reminds me of shot guns being fired. So I turn to him for support during that time. And he reassures me that it’s only fireworks. Or when a car back fires. I have to reassure my self on that one. It takes alot of time to reasure yourself of these things that can trigger it. But if you have the right support system you can get through it.
Post # 3
Not formally diagnosed, but I think it’s highly likely that Darling Husband suffers from CPTSD due to prolonged childhood trauma. It has improved with time but it’s probably a lifelong thing. It affects him (and our relationship) in lots of ways – emotional flattening (lack of strong emotions about anything), anger (when you’d expect a different emotional response like sadness or fear), sleeping problems, issues forming close relationships with others (can’t really connect with other people), hyperarousal, and probably lots of others.
It used to be much worse and he’s come along way (including therapy over the years, although not sure how much that helped him personally), but he often falls back on using weed as a crutch – it calms him down and helps him sleep. It’s probably not the best coping method but at least there is something that helps him a bit. CPTSD fundamentally changes your personality so it’s a lifelong condition that has to be managed.
I just try and be there for him when he feels low, and try to be patient when he reacts with anger, because I understand that it’s hard for him to express negative emotions properly. It can be difficult but we just try and get through the dark phases together.
Post # 4
ladyoftheswamp : I do, I have both CPTSD and PTSD from a combo of childhood trauma and an abusive ex.
I cope by focusing on my relationship and treatment.My treatment so far has been medication, therapy, and ketimine therapy. The medication works ok, I am on prazosin, which is a none narcotic medication that lowers adrenal levels, which I take as need for the hypervigilance/anxiety. I am also on valium for the more severe panic. I take wellbutrin for depression and then I have ADHD so I am also on ritalin for that.
The ketimine treatments work for alot of people who have just PTSD, I believe they have a 50% success rate. I completed mine and they help a little bit I didn’t have the 100% recovery I was hoping for. Some people get 100% relief with them, so if you haven’t looked into that, they may be worth checking out.
I do therapy with so so results, I find talk therapy for me isn’t helpful and have never managed to meet a good fit as far as therapist go. My psychiatrist is amazing though. He is up to date on the most current research, which my next steps are ECT(Electroconvulsive Therapy) which has an very little side effect and is pretty successful, the MDMA trial in Cali. I have had some success in the past with a psilocybin trial I did a years ago, I had 2 years without symptoms but unfortunately I was re-traumatized which put me back at the starting board.
It doesn’t affect my relationship in a super negative way. He is extremely protective of me and tend to be the adulterer adult when I can’t be. I don’t know how it would be if we weren’t best friends or if I couldn’t talk to him. Sometimes my insecurities hurt his feelings but we talk it out so it isn’t really a huge deal.It has negatively affected out retirement plans since me being nuts has slowed down my career progress. I feel pretty guilty about it but he is constantly reassuring and supportive.
Hope that was helpful.
Post # 5
Thank you for everyone’s responses. It’s definitely validating to hear that I’m not the only person who struggles with these feelings and symptoms. I am also lucky in that my fiance is very supportive and patient, but I do worry that my mental illness is unfair on him. I definitely agree that even with therapy and medication, it is something that can change your whole personality and life from that point onwards.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2020 - --
My partner has PTSD from a very abusive and inappropriate relationship he had with an adult as a teenager. He’s stubborn as a mule and wouldn’t go to the doctor for the longest time, still doesn’t want to take medication.
It does effect our relationship, he will occasionally zone out in the middle of sex if I say something triggering on accident. He cries sometimes, needs space sometimes, won’t let me go other times. It’s been very trial-and-error, and to be honest, I have no first hand advice for you. But I do want to tell you that as the partner of someone with PTSD, you are very much worth the time and patience. You’re still the person he loves when you feel your worst.
Post # 7
I have found emdr to be very helpful in treating my ptsd. It helped when nothing else did.
Post # 8
ladyoftheswamp : I do. Unfortunately when I confided in my bf about some of those events, he gets angy and hurt, 1 because of my detachment, and 2 because it hurts him. So I don’t share anymore. I cope relatively well. But then flashbacks and thoughts pop up randomly.
My Boyfriend or Best Friend actually changed his mind about having children, as a result.
Post # 9
I should add I did go counselling and joined a support group for 2 years. I don’t need either any more but I can’t say that I could have survived without either.
I am a better, strongful, more mindful and present person afterwards.
Edit: I take a medication that helps with my chronic pain and anxiety . That has also helped me to feel stronger regulating emotional peaks n valleys.
Post # 10
Mine was different because I only recently found out that I had been diagnosed with ptsd in the past. I don’t think I ever really asked, I assumed it was only gad because that’s what I was told 8ish years ago. When I asked my therapist months ago if I still had gad because I felt like I was managing so well, he reminded me that I was on medication (lol) then he went to his notes (he works with my med prescriber who diagnosed me) and told me that I was diagnosed with gad, panic disorder, and ptsd.
Learning about the ptsd diagnosis blew me away, but that’s when I learned about complex ptsd from abusive childhoods. I never had flashbacks or anything but I specifically remember one of my lows when I pulled into a parking lot and everyone walking towards me morphed into my mother, so it could have been that? I know it was a panic attack but I remember every person turning into her.
I manage with medications and therapy, but I think complex ptsd is a bit different, I don’t experience what you do.
I’m giving feedback on here because I was confused and surprised to learn that I had ptsd because it didn’t present the way I thought ptsd presents, so I’m hoping someone else could benefit from another mention of complex ptsd. I think it’s also relatively new to the mental health diagnoses, to separate it from ptsd from traumatic events because it’s a bit different
Post # 11
My husband does. We thought it was from going to war but he went to therapy and they now think it’s more likely to be from childhood trauma. I have to be pretty understanding with certain triggers (don’t use the same digs his parents used his whole life kind of stuff) and make sure I’m building him up but I feel like you should do that in a relationship anyway. Hypnosis seems to really help. We’re going to work on getting to where I can help him with the hypnosis and he can move away from therapy at a healthy pace. He’s made so much progress though it’s incredible. It absolutely something that can be overcome and a supportive partner makes a world of difference.
Post # 12
Sansa85 : I’m also pretty sure I have C-PTSD but as you say it’s a relatively new medical term so I haven’t been given an official diagnosis. My family have definitely been confused and shocked about my diagnosis. When I first told my mother she told me that I couldn’t have ptsd because I have never been in a war zone. I feel it’s something that a lot of people don’t understand and so I don’t tend to talk about it much
Post # 13
sciencefig : thank you very much for your words. I hope things continue to improve for you both.
Post # 14
CPTSD from childhood abuse/trauma. I went to therapy for years for depression, actually not initially realizing that it was stemming from the childhood trauma as well. I have nightmares frequently. I would like to try EMDR, as I heard that can be helpful. I am lucky to have a very supportive partner that understands the toll the abuse took on me and doesn’t dismiss me by saying I’m oversensitive.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2020 - City, State
I do… did? I don’t know. It was fairly mild all things considered, but I would have debilitating reliving experiences when exposed to triggers (and I didn’t know what would trigger me for the longest time). It was intermittent though, and so I’d go months or even more than a year without something happening. It was easier to ignore that way.
The last time it happened I was finally in a place where I felt ready and able to get professional help. I went to a therapist, and it was fine. It wasn’t necessarily a revelatory experience, but she had some useful things and it was mostly just helpful to be believed and reassured that what I was experiencing wasn’t “normal.”
The biggest thing now that sticks out to me about the therapy is this advice, when faced with a triggering situation: “You can leave.” :-/
Grief and blame were also very tied up in my PTSD, and allowing myself to grieve put a lot of things to rest. I was holding on with a vice grip to stuff.
Finally, I’ve learned to listen to my body more closely. I also learned through therapy more about how your body’s symptoms are your psyche bipassing your “mind,” like because you’re not allowing yourself to think and feel and heal… if that makes sense. Previous reliving episodes felt like an unstoppable tidal wave. Since getting more in touch with what I’m feeling, literally, physically feeling, I haven’t had that same sense of powerlessness.
It’s definitely impacted my relationships. Coping methods are mostly communicating very clearly about what I’ve found triggering that they can avoid.