(Closed) Public Proposals…Yay or Nay?!

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it really depends on the situation.  I never wanted a baseball game type of public proposal because I wanted a more intimate moment than that.  My Fiance knew that and felt the same way.  He proposed to me in a park at the foot of the Brooklyn Bridge so there were people around, but it was still our own private moment.  No clapping from bystanders or anything like that. 😉  I think even a “public” proposal can be very intimate.  I felt like we were the only 2 people in the world in that moment. 

Post # 4
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh, I would be so embarrassed by a public proposal. I don’t mean that they are inherently embarrassing, just for me personally. Neither of us are big “spotlight” people. He proposed in his own creative way at our apartment, and that was just what I wanted 🙂

Post # 5
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We were on a beach at night. There were a few people around, but there was no clapping or anything. It was in public, but still intimate (and perfect!). I would hate the baseball game type proposal and I specifically told him not to propose in a restaurant. I think that would be so awkward!

Post # 6
3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Mine was very public! It was the 4th of July and we went to the beach by our apartment to watch the fireworks. We just went as us two, but the beach was crowded with tons of random groups of people. We were sitting in folding chairs in the middle of the crowd when he got down in front of me and proposed. It was really sweet and I really liked having tons of random strangers see it happen (who wouldn’t want to show that off?!). Plus, we had a lot of people get pictures of us and they were all so kind and emailed us the photos. It was very special.

That being said, we are not really “spotlight” type of people. 

Post # 7
3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Nay for me! Low key is all my style… he’s going to be nervous enough without an audience. Plus, I don’t want to be distracted by tons of strangers around. Maybe in front of our close friends or family, but ideally, just the two of us.

Post # 8
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My proposal was public—Disneyland. And I’m not even a big Disney fan.

If I’d had my choice it would have been different, but whatever, in the end we still got married and it was a story he liked to tell. It’s one of the few things guys have so I say let him do what he wants with it.

Post # 9
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

maybe for other people (I have definitely awwwwwwwwed over the ones I’ve seen), but for me, I much preferred our private proposal. 

Post # 10
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Mine was public at a New Year’s Even party.  He and a friend of mine planned months in advance with the club’s promoter to make it happen.  When it happened, I felt like the entire club disappeared and it was just me and him.  =)

Post # 11
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mine was sort of a mix of both, if that’s possible. Haha. Mr.ND invited about 30-40 of our good family friends down to the beach and they were all in on it. So I got this huge surprise in front of a bigger crowd, but it was also a tight-knit crowd of loved ones. I’m glad he did it this way, as the celebration started ASAP with a grill-out and night out all planned by them to surprise the both of us.

I love having all the photos and video, and although Mr.ND’s not really comfortable with crowds/strangers (whereas I’m comfortable meeting anyone), this proposal was perfect for us since it was people we love and are comfortable with. 

Post # 12
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think I would like a public proposal. In my experience, anything movie inspired never turns out right and seems lackluster compared to what I have dreamed up in my head. Intimate, private proposals don’t have those same extremely high, specific, and usually unrealistic expectations attached (cheering from bystanders and the like). Plus, I wouldn’t want to feel like I was part of a show. That being said, some people love that kind of thing, and I can understand that too. 

Post # 13
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ours was….semi-public? It was perfect. I think that whatever works for the specific couple = what should happen! 🙂

For us, we got engaged with our dogs present (haha) at a local park…and we were on a bridge, but no one was in the immediate vicinity. FYI It’s a HUGE lake and park, lol. But the bridge was in a secluded area behind some trees, so it was a public PLACE but no people literally around to witness. I liked it. I can’t say I would like a public one because I am pretty shy and would probably be mortified, but that’s just me.

Post # 14
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I know my husband was planning to propose at work until my best friend basically pulled him aside like “Dude… no.”

But I have been able to witness 2 proposals, one on a hot air balloon ride and one in NYC and both were really cute, so if it fits, I think that’s great. I just am very private don’t look at me, turn weird shades of red… yeah. Ending up with a flash mob proposal on national tv IS my nightmare.


Post # 15
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

For me, it’s nay because I’m really shy and blush at the drop of a hat.

However, I would like to witness one as I think they’re cute!

Post # 16
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think I would be very awkward in a public proposal. I even feel weird kissing in public. I’m glad mine was private! 

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