(Closed) Public shaming of misbehaving children….thoughts?

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Which is the most acceptable/effective form of disciplining a child?
    Public shaming (child is not physically hurt but may be humiliated) : (72 votes)
    43 %
    Talk it out (does this even work anymore?) : (59 votes)
    35 %
    Give them a good spanking (without crossing over into serious physical abuse) : (37 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    259 posts
    Helper bee

    I see nothing wrong with this. When I was on the bus the other day I saw a little boy hit a stranger. His mum made him stand at the front of the bus and apologise to everyone. And I tell you what – he won’t be making THAT mistake again!!

    Post # 4
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I 100% believe that this punishment was suitable for her actions. Public shaming in my book is okay as long as your are not verbaly down grading your kids.

    Post # 5
    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I am not one for public shaming, though I do threaten public embarassment if he acts too much like a teenager (i.e. hugging on him when I drop him off at school or something. haha). We are a “hard talk” and logical consequences family. You lie to me, saying that you took the dog for a walk? I enforce hour long dog walks for the next 10 days in a row (the dog LOVES this punishment!). You don’t turn in a school assignment? I take away WOW privledges for a week so that you have more time to focus on homework. You give me attitude? I send your butt out to the garden to pull weeds until you’ve chilled out enough to speak to me like a civilized human being and apologize for being a brat.

    Post # 6
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @TopazTurtle:  haha That’s awesome! High five to that mama!

    Post # 7
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Had my parents not disciplined me I would’ve just kept doing what I was doing.  Especially when I was young, I never listened to a word my parents tried to tell me about respect, etc., and I did not give a crap about time out.  Actually disciplining me was the only way to get through.

    Of course it wasn’t pleasant when it happened, and yeah, maybe I pouted and cried for awhile but I’d have to say I turned out pretty well–and if my parents didn’t discipline me then I don’t think that would’ve been the case.

    Kudos to that mom!

    Post # 8
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldn’t say that public shaming is the most effective form or discipline but I think it works in a lot of cases. I see nothing wrong with this.

    I can tell you that if that had happened to me as a kid I would have never made fun of another kid.

    Post # 9
    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Other than the posting to Facebook (which to me looks like a mom who is wanting the praise and approval of others for what she’s doing) I think this is absolutely awesome!!  The little girl got a taste of her own medicine, which in turn led to her genuinely apologizing to the girl whom she bullied.  This is how it goes in the real world!  I don’t think we fully understand the effect that our words and actions have on another person until we experience it for ourselves from the receiving end.  I’m not against spanking my future children, either, but I think if you can drill something like this into their brains through experience, the results will be longer lasting.  Very interesting article 🙂

    Post # 10
    7200 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I honestly think it depends on what the child did and how it is handled.  True Story:

    About 2 weeks ago my 9 year old stole something and I discovered it.  She BEGGED me to just let her put the item back so that no one would notice how it got returned and so she would not be embarrassed.  She said I could ground her, take away privilages.. whatever.

    Oh hell no missy!  She FIRST had to write a page long letter about how stealing is wrong and how you will never do it again.  Then SECOND, she had to march on into where she stole the item from and return it to the person with the note of apology.

    There were lots of tears and she was super embarrassed.  GOOD!  She is very remorseful and I am pretty sure I will not be having this particular issue again.  In this instance I think that the public shaming was completely appropriate and I have absolutely NO regrets.


    Post # 11
    1125 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’ll do that in a heartbeat if my child ever behaves like that. No better way to understand someone elses position than to walk a mile in their shoes

    Post # 12
    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think that punishment was absolutely perfect. Sometimes, kids don’t get it until you put them in the situation themselves.  Kids are ego-centric and while most are wired with the capacity for empathy, it is a skill that must be developed and taught/learned. This seems like a great way to learn it to me!  

    I don’t think making a child wear hideous clothes for making fun of someone else’s clothes qualifies as public shaming – It’s not degrading like making the kid go to school naked is.  

    More parents like her are needed!

    Post # 13
    5978 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @VegasSukie:  Parents have to do what they have to do in order to prepare their children for life…unfortunately, a lot of bad parents have turned the entire institution of parenting into a situation where discipline no longer exists.  Good parents struggle with effective and acceptable discipline techniques and at any moment, someone could allege abuse and completely ruin your life….it’s ridiculous.


    Post # 14
    4416 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Love it! I had to laugh at the “expert” in the article suggesting that a better punishment would be to sit down and explain to the girl how bullying hurts people’s feelings. Like, really? REALLY!??! If my parents handled my misbehavior like that, I’d be eye-rolling the whole way through it and then would go right back to the way I was before. Kids don’t learn by being told; they learn by doing.

    Post # 15
    2069 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Am i the only one who thinks that onesie is amazing?! haha.

    I think this could be an amazing technique if used properly, on the proper child. As PP have said, discussions of respect, etc, would have gone way over my head as a child. I didn’t care what anyone had to say about anything. Unfortunately, knowing me, I probably would have shamelessly rocked these outfits and it wouldn’t have had much of an affect. On the right kid, though, this is probably the only thing that could work!

    Post # 16
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Nona99:  I agree. I have a 2 almost 3 year old and I spank her lower butt upper thigh. I barely leave a red mark but it gets her attention. I have had people tell me I am abusing her and I shouldn’t hit her at all. Then I tried “If I get to 3 you will get a spanking.” I’ve had people tell me it’s threatening her. WTF? Please explain how to punish her then. Time outs don’t work, she’s got a diaper to pad her ass, and taking her toys away doesn’t work.

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