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The problem here isn’t gentle parenting but a societal trend that worships children and puts them on a pedestal, and if they fall off that pedestal they get spanked and singled out as an example of how ALL children are lazy, entitled, etc. Our society does not have the tools or skills to raise children properly. Let me explain:
“I am so tired of all the sports events that everyone gets to play, everyone wins blah blah blah.” This is a problem with parenting how? I sort of agree that every kid (well, to a point) should get to play a sport. In local rec leagues kids are there because their parents want them to learn to play a sport. Kind of hard when some kids never get to play or do anything for their team. I agree with you otherwise, but this is not a parenting problem, it’s a societal one. LEarn the difference.
“Im sorry but if you bully someone or back talk or act like a little brat, then you can bet your butt you are in trouble. ” People who practice Gentle Discipline totally, 100% agree with you. On the other hand, our society tells victims of bullying that they’re the ones with the problem, and shrugs it off as “kids being kids.” But everyone acts like a brat sometimes, kids and adults, spanking and shaming isn’t going to fix that. Calmly saying “hey, that was really out of line, and here’s why” is a better option, no? Wouldn’t you want others to do that for you if you said something offensive or you were annoying someone and didn’t realize it? Or would you really rather be screamed at in public and hit on your bottom? Oh right, it’s bad for adults, but TOTALLY OKAY for children. GD is primarily about putting yourself in your kid’s shoes and acting accordingly, not ignoring bratty behavior or bullying. Spanking and shaming on the other hand serves to terrify kids into behaving without ever really teaching them why what they did was wrong.
“Time outs are a joke most of the time. Grounding, yea, Please someone send me to my room so I can watch TV and relax. ” Well that’s why you don’t put TVs in your kids’ rooms. Easy. But our society says our kids need their own TVs and whatnot in their rooms. Again, this has nothing to do with GD and everything to do with our society promoting bad parenting.
“No. When I ground my daughter now, there is nothing in her room but her bed and blankets. No phone, tv nothing. Homework, dinner shower then bed.” See, you’re doing it right and all competent GD parents would totally, 100% agree with you.
Don’t blame a school of parenting you know nothing about for societal problems that encourage lazy parenting.