Public vs. Private marriage proposals

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 46
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Worker bee

It’s definitely personal preference.  I would not like a public proposal, I don’t like being the center of attention at all.  I also will cry hysterically if it ever happens, so I wouldn’t want ppl their with their phones taking pics of my red ugly cry face.tongue-out

Post # 47
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2500 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

I thought I always wanted a public proposal…but I’m happy with my private, at home proposal. It was a special moment between my husband and I. I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Post # 48
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Emerald at Queensridge

Fiance proposed to me on a mountain during a hike. No one was there to see the actual proposal, but when we were walking back down the mountain, we saw some people who were staying at the same resort as us and they could tell something was up (I was crying tears of joy!). We told them that we just got engaged and they were so excited for us! 🙂 They were like, “I thought you guys looked familiar.. from dinner the other night!” Haha. So the actual proposal was private but we did get to have some random congratulations. I wouldn’t change my proposal for the world! 

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Definite preference for private, but would have been fine in an outdoors space out of others’ earshot. Had an inkling our dog would be involved so thought it might be on a walk. He ended up getting me off guard. It was while I was blow drying my hair, getting ready to go on a walk, that he sent doggy through to find me with my ring attached to her collar. After he told his work colleague, they remarked, ‘Good man, catch them off guard!’ Worked for us!

Post # 50
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Worker bee

Ours was as private as you can get. He asked me in the only place where he knew we’d be completely alone (outdoors on a camping trip). He’s not one for public displays and he knew it would be a fairly overwhelming moment – at least for me, and turned out the same for him!) It was still a surprise of when and where, a total blur but nice to have that private moment.

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Darling Husband proposed in the living room, just the two of us, on a date that was significant to us, with a playlist of songs he’d made for it playing. It suited both of u as we’re both quiet and don’t like making a scene in public! I always think public proposals are a bit awkward as there must be some pressure to say yes, but I guess it works for some people! 

Post # 52
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3611 posts
Sugar bee

I wouldn’t have liked a public proposal. I’m glad my Darling Husband asked me in private. I don’t mind being the center of attention in small, close-knit groups, but the thought of lots of strangers focusing on me like that makes me cringe even though it would be friendly/positive attention. Some people thrive in situations like that, though, so IMO it’s totally personal.

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I would have said “yes” regardless of where he proposed, but I am so thankful it was totally private. It was nice to have time to just soak it in and not have to share it with anyone else until we were ready. He is very introverted so I can’t imagine him doing an OTT public proposal! 

Post # 54
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Blushing bee

I would love a public proposal. My SO is really outgoing and fun so Im sure he would want to plan something fun. I would also appreciate and love an intimate proposal as well.

Post # 55
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My Fiance proposed in the same spot we had our first kiss. Although there were some passerbys, it was very intimate and romantic! I am more on the shy side, so he knew if he went more public I would have likely acted timid and turned red. I loved our special moment together just us two! It is all personal preference I believe! 

Post # 56
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139 posts
Blushing bee

Private proposal definitely. Like many I don’t really like being the center of attention. Would prefer something that involves a place that is meaningful to both of us.  Low key  just like we are. My boyfriend has been giving me hints it could be soon so I’m getting anxious!!

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