Post # 1
Hi bees, I’m curious if anyone has gotten pregnant using this method. If you have, please say whether it was due to not pulling out in time or if you were careful about pulling out and still got pregnant. My SO and I are considering using this as our primary means of birth control. I’ve been on the pill for about 6 months and the side effects have been terrible for me. We are both older and understand the risks with pulling out and if there was an accidental pregnancy it wouldn’t be the end of the world. Please post your experiences! Thanks.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I wouldn’t use it as a primary means of BC. It’s very unreliable. However, if you don’t care about getting pregnant then I wouldn’t worry about whether it was reliable or not. I know a handful of people who tried this and got pregnant.
Post # 3
LMD: Thank you. I wouldn’t say I don’t care about getting pregnant. It wouldn’t be the end of the world if I did as we both have careers and are older. We would prefer the timing to be better though. So that’s why I’m looking to hear from people how reliable of a method it was for them.
Post # 4
Why not just get on the non hormonal IUD? Or condoms.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I think if you chart and use the POM you’ll have better chances of not getting pregnant. If you just use the POM and you happen to be ovulating then I think you have really high chances of accidentally getting preggers.
Post # 6
bowsergirl: I guess I’m not a fan of having anything foreign placed inside my body. I’m a nurse and I’m just really uncomfortable with having any type of invasive procedure done (even minimally invasive). Also, I’m planning on starting a family in the next 2-3 years so from what I know, IUD’s are generally recommended for women who don’t plan on having kids for at least 5 years. Condoms are an option but I know that we are likely to not use them 100% of the time.
I know pulling out doesn’t have a track record as being the BEST method of birth control but I’ve also read that it can be done very effectively if your partner is reliable. That’s why I’m interested in hearing from bees who have tried it.
Post # 7
NightOwl27: we were planning to ttc in fall 2013 so we used POM starting in spring when I stopped BC. The first time he didn’t pull out (which I okay’ed) I got pregnant. I think it can be very effective if used correctly. I wouldn’t personal use it if I didn’t want to have a baby though. I sould use it along with charting so you know when to be extra careful.
Post # 8
I’ve always been under the impression that the pull out method was less a birth control method and more a vague sense of hope. I’d suggest that you consider doing some research about natural birth control methods like charting your temperature and cervical mucus, and then use condoms during the few days of the month when you are ovulating. I think that would be a lot more effective than pulling out aka hoping for the best.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
NightOwl27: Grab a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility and check out fertility friend.com for how to chart to avoid. This coupled with POM is pretty effective birth control. I charted to avoid for over a year successfully before my body decided to “help me out” by ovulating over 10 days early causing me to turn up pregnant. make sure to use condoms or abstain during your fertile window and you should be good.
Post # 10
If you don’t want to use artificial methods, you should try charting. The book Taking Charge of Your Fertility is highly recommended around the Bee.
Post # 11
I’ve never tried the POM, but I agree with people who have seggested charting to avoid using fertilityfriend.com. DH and I did this for 6 months while we were getting ourselves ready to ttc and it worked like a charm. I have very regular cycles, so I didn’t temp. I just used cervical mucus and opk tests. It also made ttc easier once we started since I already knew my cycle really well.
Post # 12
NightOwl27: Honestly, we have only ever used the pull out method. In the 3+ years we have been together, we have bought one small box of condoms! I have also never been on bc, but that’s not to say it can’t happen… Obviously we don’t know if there could be any underlying medical issues because we are not actively ttc, or even close to. We are aware that it could happen at any time, if it happens, it happens. We will not be disappointed, all though I hope it doesn’t happen before the wedding lol.
Post # 13
beachbride1216: Definitely interested in looking into that book since I’ve heard it recommended several times. Thanks for the suggestions. Beachbride, when you ovulated early and became pregnant were you using the POM and it failed?
Post # 14
NightOwl27: I personally know a couple of people who were doing it correctly and older and ended up pregnant while using the “pull out” method. I think the pull out method could be okay if you’d be okay with getting pregnant a little earlier than you were planning, just in case you do accidentally get pregnant. If that’s not the case, I think you should look at other birth control methods.
Have you looked into a diaphragm + spermicide? That might be an option for you if you don’t mind having something in your body temporarily, and using the pull out method in combination with that would likely increase its effectiveness.
Btw, I actually have a copper IUD and I love it. I feel like it’d be worth it IMO to get it even if you have it taken out after 2 years. But as I said, I love mine.
Also, I don’t have experience with the Natural Family Planning Method, but here is what the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists has to say about it: “Natural family planning is not as effective as most other methods of birth control. One in four women who use this method become pregnant.”
It is from this website: http://www.acog.org/~/media/For%20Patients/faq024.pdf?dmc=1&ts=20140416T0844488768. I’d recommend you look at it if you’re considering this method of BC, since it is a FAQ and several methods are explained.
What put me off of NFP is that I read it’s hard for women to pin down their ovulation time correctly sometimes, and I really should not become pregnant any time soon so the possibility of that didn’t work for me. As a disclaimer, I know that there are women who use NFP correctly and love it, but this was my thought process.
Post # 15
What about combining it with other family planning methods (i.e., charting cervical mucus, taking ovulation tests, tracking BBTs)? As others are suggesting, you can get cervical caps, too (you can often buy these online, too, even within the US, legally. There are 3 sizes) and use it with spermicide.
Many, many people have luck with pullout…and in your case, it may be an acceptable method because you *accept* the risk of pregnancy and wouldn’t mind terribly if it happened sooner rather than later.