Post # 31
We used the POM for three years and never got pregnant. I went on BC three years ago and he still pulls out now. He has always done it never mind if there was condoms. BC, etc, so I would consider him very good at it.
Post # 32
NightOwl27: Those commenting that withdrawal is ineffective are incorrect. Withdrawal has about the same effectiveness as the pill and condoms: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
Obviously it requires an experienced partner who has self-control and a good deal of trust, but it does work.
Pre-ejaculate does not normally contain sperm, but it can if the man hasn’t urinated since his last ejaculation.
Post # 33
Agree with the Taking Control of Your Fertility book, and maybe an app so you can track things…I’ve been tracking for 2 months in preparation for TTC, and I’ve learned SO much about my body. When you have an idea of when you are fertile (my trusty app), you could use it for when NOT to get busy, or use condoms during that time, etc.
Post # 34
NightOwl27: We used it for about 2.5 years before I was on birth control. We had no issues but my fiance has great self control.
Post # 35
I will never understand the hate on condoms. They are easy, clean and healthy. Either my husband and I are built just differently (wetter? tighter? IDK) or eveyone else is just SUPER picky about slight texture things during sex. If someone was like ‘hey lets have sex- afterward either i have to throw away a plastic thing or we have a giant wad of semen to clean up- It’s no contest. I realize i’m in a minority but am so confused by it. Are other people having sex in like restaurants spur of the moment and they don’t want to carry them everywhere? I just don’t get it.
Post # 36
I have never gotten pregnant (except maybe once but still not sure) thank GOD! But i am still on birth control and always will be. I do prefer the use of birth control and condoms but sometimes
Jake and I don’t use them but i am still on BC and i still make him pull out or use a rubber if he has one. But my parents had me because of the pull out method. Pre cum still has sperm in it. And you only need one to make a baby.
Thanks mom. Thanks dad. -.-
Post # 37
There’s a term for couples that rely exclusively on POM, they’re called “parents”. 🙂
Post # 38
NightOwl27: Get an IUD. What you propose is not really BC.
Post # 39
I used the POM, but used condoms when I knew I was ovulating (so I tracked that) and didn’t get prgnant the entire time.
Once I wanted to be prenant it happend on our first try since i had been tracking my ovulation cycle so diligently. 🙂 I like it.
Post # 40
SadieBee: The Symptothermal method is listed as a method of Natural Family Planning on the FAQ I linked to. As are the Basal body temperature method, the Ovulation/cervival mucus method, Calendar method, and Lactational amenorrhea.
I’m assuming that the Symptothermal method is the more accurate one of the ones listed.
Post # 41
LilRhodyGem: I stated my reasons for not wanting an IUD earlier in this thread. 1. I don’t want any type of hormonal BC and 2. I don’t want any invasive procedure done. Even minimally invasive. I recently had a terrible experience with a GYN doctor and I’m almost terrified of ever going back due to her lack of bedside manners. But that’s for another thread.
And I do consider POM to be a form of BC. Maybe not the most effective form but more effective than doing nothing to prevent pregnancy.
Post # 42
We’ve been using the POM for 10 years as the only method of birth control and I’ve never gotten pregnant.
Post # 43
Well… Although I don’t think that pulling out is a birth control method personally, my husband and I used it quite a bit before I got on BC when we met and no we never got pregnant.
Post # 44
NightOwl27: Terribly unreliable. I have not relied on this and would not. I think it has an efficacy rate of around 70%, if that helps. But, since you’re in a place where pregnancy wouldn’t be the worst thing, you can totally try this. It sounds like you’re maybe planning on kids anyways?
I agree with other posters that charting might also be a good idea. In combination, the two might work ok.
Edit to add: What about condoms? The spermicide honestly freaks me out, but you can get thin ones without that aren’t too bad.
Post # 45
Not yet – we occassionally use condoms as well. I want to second a PP and say the worst part is the lack of laying together after and still feeling connected. This has been reliable for us for a year but to be honest I want to start TTC in about a year, so I do not concern myself a ton with reliability.