Post # 1
We just got married a month ago, so we don’t want babies that soon, but want to ttc in the next year. I haven’t been on BC in years because of how awful it feels, so we used condoms through our honeymoon to ensure we didn’t get pregnant right when we got married. Ever since then (all of one month hehe) we’ve been using pom. This may be a silly question, but for those of you using pull out method how did you decide to just ntnt? Or do you consider pull out method ntnt in first place? I graduate law school in May, take the bar in July, and need a job. So, we’re kind of like financially it’d be better if we both have jobs, but hubby is an employed accountant and we live off his salary okay now so it wouldn’t be end of world. Darling Husband says he never wants to plan for the baby with structured bd times b/c he wants it to be “magical.” Rolls eyes, I still chart so I know when fertile times abound! Also, did you conceive using pull out method? If so, was it an OE (operator error) this feels too good kind of thing?
Post # 3
My cousin and her husband have a beautfiul little girl due to the POM. I would talk to your husband long and hard and think about how you would feel and what you would do if you did get pregnant. If you are both okay with taking the chance and would be able to handle it then do what is best for the both of you. Also do you chart? If you have regular cycles you could figure out when you ovulated and avoid that time.
Post # 4
Well, I voted “no pom does not=ntnt” . I am off BC and Darling Husband and I are hoping to start officially TTC this fall. I don’t consider it “NTNT” for some reason. In my mind, NTNT is more “let’s just do it and see what happens” -ie: not BD’ing on certain days, just more of a casual and uncalculated approach and if it happens, it happens. That’s just my perspective though, I’m sure everyone’s is a touch different. If it happened now we would be thrilled, but won’t be actively TTC for a few more months. So far using POM has been successful and now that I’m charting I feel a bit better knowing what’s going on with my body as well and when we are at a higher risk.
Good luck to you, and congrats on the new marriage!!
Post # 5
I voted POM not = NTNT, for us at least. We are using the POM until the fall, and I don’t consider us NTNT (even though we wouldn’t mind if we “accidentally” conceived now). I agree with StaceyA in that NTNT, he’s not pulling out. You just do it and see what happens.
Post # 6
NO! POM does not = NTNT. If you are NTNT it means that he is not pulling out but you arent charting/temping its just if you happen to get pregnant. POM is actively trying not to hence why the man pulls out before ejaculation. If you are using POM correctly (man pulls out BEFORE ejaculation, nothing gets inside of you, pee right after) then you shouldn’t get pregnant. We’ve been using POM for years and we’re baby free.
Post # 7
Well I could have written a similar OP to you – I’m almost done grad school, Darling Husband is working, but it was not an ideal time financially to get pregnant. We are also newlyweds who want kids but not necessarily right away AND since we got married I got off the pill for health reasons. So we were using condoms sometimes, sometimes we used POM.
And now I am almost 11 weeks pregnant! Make of that what you will 🙂
We did somewhat consider ourselves NTNT since we essentially became much more lax with birth control post wedding and we talked about the fact that we knew we could get pregnant and that we would be ok if we did (though I did freak out a little when it happened, cuz you know, I never thought that would happen to ME, lol!)
Edit: I voted your last option, but i guess I felt like we were between the first and last options. We did know that POM was the least effective BC method
Post # 8
@PitBulLover: “POM does not = NTNT. If you are NTNT it means that he is not pulling out but you arent charting/temping its just if you happen to get pregnant. POM is actively trying not to hence why the man pulls out before ejaculation.”
I second this!
Post # 10
Friends/neighbors of ours have 3 POM children…so there’s my answer lol
Post # 12
I have two nephews and two cousins due to the POM. Use something else as backup. It is to risky. All it takes is one little swimmer to get the job done.
Post # 13
When people say “I know so and so who had a POM baby” Im not quite sure what that means. Did the person you know specifically tell you that their husband/SO did not ejaculate inside of them? Some men don’t have complete control and pull out too late even though they think they might be pulling out. Just saying that if you use the POM correctly then you shouldnt be getting pregnant. No ejaculation inside = no baby.
Post # 14
When we used POM we pretty much had it in the back of our minds that we could get pregnant at any point because it is risky…
Had conceived while on POM we would have been overjoyed despite the fact that we’d be a little surprised. So, If you got pregnant tomorrow and were happy about it then I think you’re fine.
But if you are DREADING getting pregnant, then use a condom:)
Post # 15
@TurtleDoves: I agree about the condom part.
I have a friend who is so terrified of getting pregnant, she uses 3 forms of BC: BCP, POM, and condoms. Talk about keepin the baby away!!
Post # 16
@doxielove: Oh God, sadly, I did that allllllll through h/s & college ( annnnd now I sound like a slut….bye!)