(Closed) Pulmonary Embolism :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Gosh, I am so sorry to hear that. I dont have any advice for you, but you and your family are in my thoughts!

Us bees are here whenever you need to talk πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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46419 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Having to deal with a chronic illness is hard. Your blood clots are like someone having diabetes. It doesn’t go away. You have to take daily medication. You may have crises from time to time.

I believe the intent of your doctor telling you to be off  work was that you would be getting some rest at home. It doesn’t sound like you are doing that at all.

One thing I have learned in my life is that a lot of energy is wasted in worrying about things and absolutely nothing is accomplished by it.

Why don’t you give your self permission to relax and not worry about things for at least a week and re- evaluate the situation then?

Post # 6
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sorry you’re going through this.

I don’t have anything where I might be hospitalized but I do have to take medication for the rest of my life b/c I had my thyroid removed… even more so trying to start having kids.

I understand the wanting to take control of your life! I know that even having to take daily meds it feels sometimes like I’m on it’s schedule rather than mine… esp since i have to take it fasting….

Gosh I remember in the beginning, and even now sometimes, I would forget to take it and remember as soon as I’d sit down to eat!!! GRRRRRRR

You know though… taking everything you need to and relaxing now in this time off IS taking control of your life… b/c if you didn’t say anything or go to the dr. or take your meds then it would dictate your death…. rather you do what you need to and you tell that condition it can eat it and you’re going to Live!

((hugs)) for your frustration & hope for you getting well sooner rather than later πŸ˜‰

EDIT:: Never let the financial stuff burden you and get you too frustrated.. Money is only money and more WILL come… Spend your time letting your body do what it needs too and let everything else take the back burner πŸ˜‰

Post # 8
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4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry you’re going through this! I lost my job while we were planning our wedding, so I can relate to the feeling of “I just want to enjoy planning my wedding”! But sadly, life doesn’t stop, even if we are planning a wedding. I agree with the other Bees that you should try and enjoy the time off and relax and let your body heal. Don’t push yourself or you may end up taking time off for longer πŸ™ Hope you feel better!

Post # 9
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281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this.  I was diagnosed with RA (rheumatoid arthritis) about the time my Fiance moved in with me, and started getting worse not too long before he propsed.  I’ve spent the last 4 years trying to feel like my old self instead of an 80 year old, and even managed to come very, very close for a few months before our wedding.  

I never thought that this is what my life would be like at 36, an endless string of drs appointments, blood tests, injections, changes in medication and feeling like I’m 80 some days (like I’m at least 70 the others).  I understand your frustration.  Some days all I want is my old life back.  But this is my life, all I can do is live it the best I can, acknowledging when I need a break and taking advantage of the good times.  That’s the control you can have, to live the life you are given to the very best of your ability.

Sometimes you can’t do what you used to, but that’s okay.  Sometimes you can, and that’s precious.  Make sure you lean on the people who are around you for support, they love you and want you healthy and happy.  Healthy and happy is way more important than any wedding detail.  Above all else take care of yourself, so rest, relax, and get better right now.  

I wish you the best.  Hugs.

Post # 10
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

1. You need to rest and stop stressing about planning your wedding next year. Your wedding isn’t worth losing your life for. Your doctor told you take medical leave so that you could relax! I don’t think he meant stress at home, clean every room, and email your planner 7 times a day.

2. LISTEN to your body! Don’t ignore it again. You could have DIED! You knew something was wrong and you ignored it! Next time you might be so lucky! No one is going to be annoyed with you or not believe you.

3. Start giving other people stuff to do while you rest. Your wedding isn’t until next March. You have time to do things if you have all the big vendors booked. If you don’t have them booked, let someone else do the research and get back to you with results.

4. REST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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5883 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It suxs when a chronic illness takes over your life. I had severe major depression that left me unable to work off and on for 3 years. I learned that there are some things we can control (like taking meds and going to the doc ASAP) and some things we can’t (like thinking our way to perfect health). Your first priority has to be your health–money, wedding, everything can wait. If you don’t have your health, nothing else matters. Take care of yourself, learn to let go and relax!

Post # 12
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know it’s horrible, but please don’t ignore it again!  My mother died from a pulmonary embolism.

As to your question, I was dealinh with chronic pain before my wedding and still am.  It’s hard but you have to take it day by day, rest when you have to and still try to have the best day possible!

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