- 4 years ago
So our little fur baby arrived last Monday. He’s an 8 week old Alaskan malamute. He’s gorgeous and SO and I love him to bits. I have been suffering from the ‘puppy blues’, which makes no sense to me as he was a long term plan of ours, not a snap decision. SO is the one that’s lacking sleep, but he’s okay as this is exactly how he expected it to be. I feel sad that life has totally changed, SO sleeps when I get up, we haven’t been eating together or sleeping in the same bed. Everyone tells me it will get better, this is just for a little while.
I got so frustrated with him the other night, he kept whining and howling and trying to bite me. I picked him up and put him outside, where he immediately went to the toilet. I cried, I felt terrible that I got so mad at him when he was just trying to let me know he wanted to go outside.
I feel sick when I know have to be home alone with him. I’m so worried about the noise he makes at night time. When we signed our pet agreement with the real estate, it stated that if any neighbours complain about the dog, he has to be removed from the property – which we really don’t want. Our neighbour on one side said she’s only heard him a couple of times and it hasn’t bothered her at all, and that we’re better off letting him cry it out at night than giving in to him. She thinks our other neighbours would be fine as their bedrooms are at the opposite end to where our puppy sleeps. If we owned our home, is be far less worried about the noise (it would still concern me, but I’d be more inclined not to give in to him). I would hope that the real estate would understand that it takes time to settle in?!
Also, he’s teething and bites everything (thankfully not doors though!). The issue is that he bites my clothes and won’t let go. I try not to engage in a tug of war, and try to lift his head up to look at me and tell him a stern ‘no’. He doesn’t listen to me, which frustrates me. He has a very strong bite on him with sharp little teeth. I spoke to my sister and she said her cavalier pup is exactly the same. I was worried that we had a crazy aggressive puppy. He doesn’t do this to SO, which makes me think that the puppy thinks he ranks higher than me, and ultimately SO is the alpha. He is so naughty for me sometimes, and I try not to get frustrated. I tell him no and push him away, but he thinks that it’s a game. I’d never hurt him, but my gosh, he tests my patience.
He has been getting better though. Instead of always jumping up and putting his paws on the puppy gate, sometimes he’ll sit quietly. While SO was at work, he actually had 2 two hour naps. When I got up to let SO in, he got out of his bed and started to cry, and I just left him. When I came back he had peed, and I should have known after sleeping for a couple of hours that he would need to go to the toilet. It’s just so hard to differentiate between the ‘I want attention’ or ‘I want to go outside’ cry. He’ll whimper quietly and settle himself down at night sometimes. He’ll sleep for 2-3 hours at a time. I think part of it is him wanting to know where his pack is, he is so young and used to having his mum/siblings around and I know I need to be patient because he is just a baby. I can’t expect him to know the rules immediately.
He understands ‘bed’ and will hop on his bed (most of the time, he is a malamute though!) when instructed. He also understands sit, even though sometimes you have to tell him 20 times to do it (I always follow through with a command, then praise him when he does it).
I said to SO that we need puppy school and a dog trainer – not so much for the pup, but for me. I need to know that I can control him. SO has had a mallie before (most obedient dog I have ever met) so he knows how to handle them. My sister can’t wait until he’s old enough to meet her cavalier, but I am terrified he will eat her (which realistically, he shouldn’t if they are socialised early enough).
I worry with him outside as he likes to eat everything – slugs, snails, ants, bugs etc. the slugs and snails are concerning because we don’t know if they’ve been baited, and we don’t want him to get sick.
He’s so beautiful, I love him so much. He was playing in a puddle in the rain the other day, scratching at the water on the concrete. He goes apeshit when he knows food is coming (he knows the sounds already!), he certainly has a whole lot of personality and attitude! He lays on his back at my feet when I come home from work and enjoys a tummy scratch (so he knows being submissive is not a bad thing). I’m just feeling helpless, scared, anxious, panicked, I’ve totally gone off food. I miss SO, we’ve hardly seen each other all week! My sister felt exactly the same way I am feeling now, and she said it will get to a point where things suddenly just become better, I’ll feel better, the puppy will settle down. I think it will be better once he’s had all his shots and can go for walks, that will really tire him out. He does burn up a lot of energy running around like a possessed dog and chewing on his toys. He’s been coming in the car when I drop SO at work (we haven’t left him alone yet), and he whimpers, cries and howls all the way to town (10 minute drive) then sleeps on the way back. Last night he wriggled out of his harness and just laid quietly on the back seat.
I am sorry for the disjointed post, I guess I am just looking for support. Does everyone feel this frustrated and anxious and scared and exhausted when puppy arrives? Is everyone’s puppy this naughty? Does everyone’s puppy ignore their commands and just keep on biting? Is what I’m feeling normal?