Post # 91
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
sassy411 : In this case, absolutely. But when you’re mourning a relationship, it’s hard to remember the bad parts so remembering that this isnt the right person for you regardless of whether they were good or bad is what helped me stay strong when going through a serious breakup.
Post # 92
Yes, you are very right.
One thing that really helped me when I felt wobbly about my ex, was my therapist assigning me to write out a list of every mean thing he had said or done.
With supersonic speed, I reached #54 and got the point. But, I kept writing and writing and writing. My therapist reviewed my homework and reinforced what an awful person this guy is.
That list turned things around in my head, permanently. I very much recommend it to anyone who is struggling to break a traumatic bond.
Post # 93
Oh, Honey Bee. Change is always scary. Even the really, really good ones are a bit frightening. It’s normal and natural to feel a few muscle pains as you test out your wings; you haven’t used them in awhile.
Your decision to dump your ex is sound. The people who know you best and love you the most recognize this and it makes them feel happy. That’s pretty good validation. I would feel much gratitude for that.
It’s also totally typical to wobble sometimes early in the healing process. Your mind will play tricks on you. It will tell you silly nonsense about being “old” or never being to find someone “better. Sweetie, you could open your window, close your eyes, pitch a rock, and hit someone far better.
Your mind is doing this because you have been brainwashed. Reread the title of your thread. The puppy was causing your breakup? Can you now see how distorted that thinking was? A puppy cannot control the outcome of a human, adult relationship. The thread title revealed so much about how twisted around and manipulated you were. Your ex will spend the rest of his days blaming an innocent little (and adorable) puppy for your breakup. No matter what bs lip service he manages to spew temporarily to recapture you, his prey prize, he will never have the capacity to accept that he had anything to do with the demise of your relationship.