(Closed) Puppy , Money and Timing ….

posted 6 years ago in Pets
  • poll: I would
    keep the puppy and cut cost in the wedding : (11 votes)
    21 %
    return the puppy before you get too attached : (42 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 4
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I voted to rehome the puppy based solely on the fact that you said you have too much going on. I don’t think the looney is as big of an issue as the patience and timing issues. It’s notmyour fault that you are busy and it’s totally understandable, but it isn’t fair to the puppy to be in that situation. I would rehome the puppy to someone who can give it the attention it needs, everything youngest married and everything settles down, then you can get puppy! 

    Post # 5
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you should return the dog.It kills me that people give dogs as surprise presents. An animal’s life and welfare should be something carefully planned out by both people. It really sounds like you guys just aren’t in the right place to raise a young dog right now.

    Also, please consider a rescue puppy next go around. You can find full blooded breeds without supporting the breeders!

    Post # 6
    1285 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    That is a very tough and guilt ridden situation to be in! Can a family member help you out and watch the pup until after the wedding? Can the breeder take the pup back until after the wedding or agree to a payment plan so it isn’t so much money right now?

    Regarding timing, if you think the time is bad, but will be better in 2 months, you and your Fiance may try to find a temporary solution. But if you feel the timing won’t be right for several months to a year +, then maybe return the pup so the pup can have the best start in life possible, and when you do get another pup, you both will have the time to dedicate to training, care taking and enjoying them.

    Post # 7
    3152 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    @Milan21xx:  I can not fathom spending $1500 on a dog (esp EBD which have health issues) when there are so many dogs that need to be rescued. I just don’t get it.

    That said, if you’re not ready for a dog do NOT get one!

    Post # 8
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Milan21xx:  This is why animals should not be gifts.

    Post # 11
    752 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think raising a puppy is very consuming when you feel 100% ready and committed to it.  Since you are neither ready or committed, take it back!

    Edit:  I also have to ask this…How come you and your Fiance aren’t on the same page about finances?  Why would he think it’s ok to spend $1500 on a gift when you have serious wedding spending to go?

    Post # 13
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Milan21xx:  If you got it from a breeder and I’m guessing you did at $1500, then the breeder should take the puppy back. Please call and ask.  They should take it back while it’s still cute and little.  Not sure if you’ll get a full refund, but call.

    I agree, animals should NEVER be given as gifts – it’s a 10-15 year commitment and should not be anything related to a surprise!  It should be very well thought out, planned and researched.  Never a spur of the moment thing – even if you’ve always wanted one, he did not consult you on this 10-15 year commitment.


    I am not even sure kennels would have taken in your puppy since he’s not fully vaccinated.  They need 3 rounds of shots anyway.


    Please return the puppy to the breeder.  It’s the wisest option here.


    When you guys are ready, do a google for “English Bull Rescue” and see the tons of links that show up – you can get a purebred from a rescue.


    Ditto Peanuthead’s question about finances.  I’d also suggest having a family meeting with your Fiance to discuss “How much is too much before you need to consult the other person?”  If H spent $1500 without consulting me first I’d be very upset.

    Post # 14
    3229 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t know what you should do. It is such a hard choice!

    I gifted my FH a corgi puppy BUT he was well planned. FH has been wanting a dog for over 20 years (his dad is allergic and he has been in college since forever). When he finally got out of college, got a job, and moved, we researched breeders, went to meet him, and brought home our little cutie pie. It is the best gift anyone has ever given FH (and I am a darn good gift giver), and it helped him adjust to moving to a new city by himself very well.

    It is such a big committment that I can’t imagine just surprising someone with it.

    Post # 15
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    If you’re not ready for a puppy, you need to return it.  It’s not fair to the puppy and you will resent the puppy each time it makes a mistake.  You guys can always revisit the idea of a puppy in the future once things have died down.

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