Puppy or Baby First?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What do you suggest is best?
    Get a puppy now (while starting TTC) : (38 votes)
    42 %
    Wait until we have our first baby, and then think of getting a puppy : (52 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 31
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    3198 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yes, it sounds like you want a baby, not really a dog. Live animals should not be treated as stand ins until you have children, because that’s how they end up abandoned or neglected… even if they’re good and don’t cause issues, it isn’t fair to put them through that. I understand being impatient, but I think maybe you should foster to get you through the waiting period. Beware foster failure though and maybe just foster an older dog.

    Post # 32
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    9569 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    i love my dog, so much.

    I am so incredibly happy I’m not training her or dealing with 0-1.5 year old energy while pregnant.  

    TTC is really fast for some people.. that wasn’t my particular experience but you have to prepare for all scenarios (and over 50% of women take 3 tries or less).  Especially since the ppl I know who have CKCS’s say they’re energetic as F… 

    Anyway, all this to say, I’d wait.  And/or adopt a 1 year old that already has a good temperament/socialization & is house trained.  We adopted our dog at about 1-1.5 and it’s still a ton of fun dealing with their energy right at that point and training them to learn obedience and tricks.

    Post # 33
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    3630 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

    I knew that I wanted a fur child before a real child and got hubby on board. We adopted a ~3 year old rottweiler and brought her home last July. We will be TTC this July. She was already trained in basic commands and housebroken for the most part (we had to learn her schedule and cues for when she had to go) so after a week, we had our routine down. I have no concerns about how much time we will have for our dog once we do bring home a baby. It helps that rotties are a low energy breed to begin with. She has her playful puppy moments and we let her run around and play fetch to burn off that energy for about 30mins or so every day, and after that, she’s tuckered out! So maybe consider a different age and/or breed that is more low energy, or don’t get a dog at all. 

    Post # 34
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    504 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Hubby and I have two 5-year-old mutts that we love as our “kids” and have had for two years. In my opinion, puppies are overrated with all the time and money required for training and initial vaccinations, potty breaks through the night, spay/neuter, etc. We knew exactly what we were getting by adopting two young adult dogs, and they have bonded with us just as strongly as if we had raised them from puppies. Plus they still have plenty of puppy energy because we stay active with them.

    My advice? If you want a dog now, go with a breed-specific rescue or shelter pup and adopt a young adult dog. He/she should already be fixed, vaccinated, and at least closer to being housebroken than a puppy, plus the adoption fees are way cheaper than going through a breeder. Focus less on the breed and more on the personality of the individual dog to find the best fit for your family. I have no problems with purebred dogs personally, but I have friends who work in rescues who see way too many cases of people who get puppies because they’re cute and then surrender or re-home them once they’re adults and have lost the “cute factor.”

    If you want to raise a dog from a puppy, I’d definitely wait until your baby is at least in the toddler phase. I could not imagine trying to take care of an infant 24/7 and give a puppy the time necessary for potty training and obedience.

    Post # 35
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    805 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    FWIW: I have an 11 lb, hypoallergenic dog. We got her as a puppy and fell pregnant about two months later. She is about one year older than my son. We were super lucky in that she is very gentle, mild mannered, and incredible with the baby who is now 8 months old. We have a fair sized house and a fenced in back yard. She tires herself out very easily within this environment. She is very well paper trained (fighting to house train her in a New England winter while pregnant just didn’t happen). Hoping to make the transition to being house broken this spring/summer. So, through sheer dumb luck, getting a puppy before becoming pregnant worked very well for us. I don’t know if I would recommend it, but I am certainly an example where it worked.

    Post # 36
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    485 posts
    Helper bee

    Nope. Wait on getting a dog. Like someone said before it’s not a substitute until you finally get pregnant and have a baby. 

    Post # 37
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    27 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I would not get a puppy while trying conceive but an adult rescued dog would be much more ideal for that situation as well as more animal friendly. Walking the dog for a hour daily is a relaxing way to get walking more when you are pregnant that’s pretty much all the exercise I did when pregnant first time and I think it really helped.

    We ended up with a puppy(we were not looking for one) when I was pregnant with my son it was a lot of work puppies are so much more needy and you don’t really want that when you are pregnant. Another possible issue getting a puppy compared to an adult you don’t know what the personality of the dog will be, so you may end up with a bad fit for your growing family. 

    Post # 38
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    805 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    Ok I don’t know what you ended up doing (or if you have done anything yet), BUT if you end up looking into adopting an adult dog as many of the commenters suggested, spend the money to get a behavior specialist to check out the dog for you before you commit. They can test to see how various stimuli trigger your dog. This is something you want to know before you introduce a baby to the dog. Remember that the baby will be new to the dog, just like the dog will be new to the baby. Some dogs with traumatic pasts react in surprising ways when confronted with certain triggering situations.

    Post # 39
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    8247 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I don’t think getting a dog while TTC necessarily means you are using the dog as a baby substitute. We got our boy after 8 months off TTC without luck. We had reached the point where we decided to stop putting our lives on hold for TTC (I also took a new job at this time) and we met the perfect pooch for us at an adoption event run by a local rescue organization. Even the foster parents were like “um…this is your dog. He’s following you around and you’ve been here for 3 hours and keep coming back to him” lol. We’ve had him for almost 3 years now and our daughter is almost 10 months old. I can’t imagine how people get rid of their dog when they have a baby – I love him so much! I still make a point to give him one on one time with me where he doesn’t have to share me with the baby. We didn’t get a young puppy though – he was 7 months old and potty trained when we got him which I think was good for first time dog owners. He’s a total sweetheart with our daughter and she’s newly obsessed with him too! 

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