(Closed) Puppy visiting for Christmas

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

If he’s potty trained now I don’t see the problem? Why not just let her know that if anything happens, clean it up right away and if he chews anything, she has to be prepared to replace the item. Compromise? Sorry I’m a total dog lover and advocate for them to be members of the family, not accessories to be just outside dogs or limited to certain areas of the house.

Post # 4
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If they leave him in his crate during the day he can’t have too much crate anxiety can he? Would you allow him to sleep upstairs if he slept in a closed crate?

ETA: I have an almost 9 month old puppy so I can understand not wanting to be away from it but a. you’re being generous enough to let them bring the dog at all and b. your house your rules. They need to deal.

Post # 7
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Just trying to lay this out:

-The dog has not had an accident in a month.

-The dog will be allowed upstairs during the day.

-The dog will not be allowed upstairs at night.

It all seems odd because the dog is going to be sleeping at night.  It’s old enough that it isn’t going to have an accident and it’s going to sleep through the night.

In the end, it’s your house and you get the make the rules.  It’s probably best that she stay elsewhere.


By The Way, consider the possiblity that your opinion about dogs living outside is not shared by the majority of educated dog owners.  Dogs are pack animals.  They are not supposed to be outside alone all the time.  Just because you know dogs that lived that life does not mean it is the right way to raise a dog.

Post # 8
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I hate cleaning up pee.  A puppy will pee on carpet even if it is trained- it can still have accidents.  I would keep it off the carpet!  Much easier to clean on hardwood.

Post # 10
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Okay I’ll admit I sympathize with your sister. I had two puppies a few Christmases ago (now dogs, lol) and had to sleep in my Grandma’s living room with them. It was NOT fun. I couldn’t even stay at my parents’ house because my step-dad wanted them to be crated in the garage (they don’t have a backyard.) I was upset, we’ll just say. I considered going home immediately, until my grandma offered her living room, which wasn’t all that much better, but they were inside.

Puppy pads work wonders. I would ask that they stay off the carpet (that to me is quite reasonable!) but I wouldn’t worry about the hardwood. Put some puppy pads out just in case and it should all be fine. Let them sleep nearest to the dog, but you can’t ask a dog owner to crate when they know their dog will not do well in the crate. Mine would bark and howl all night, but they’re completely fine during the day. We have them sleep in their own beds in our room at night. I am not personally one of the “dog must be crated all the time or outside” people.

Oh, and as to “Why can it be in the crate during the day but not at night.” Dogs aren’t stupid, they know when someone is home versus when they are gone. If they are gone, the dog doesn’t feel left out. And you can’t expect to get a good night’s sleep if there is an upset dog with a problem that can easily be fixed. Your sister knows the best way to keep it quiet in a new environment, even if that way isn’t one you love. Yes, it’s your house. But honestly, it’s your sister too. That’s just my opinion/my thoughts.

Post # 11
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would let the puppy sleep where you have hard wood floors.  I promise, NOTHING is going to happen to them.  I can’t even count how many times my family’s dog peed on hardwood floors.  the beauty of flooring as opposed to carpet is you can just wipe it right off and spray some lysol on it.

Just keep in mind that you’re more concerned about…wood than you are about your sister and her dog.

sorry, I just can’t sympathize with your position. 

Post # 12
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@AmeliaBedelia: Agree with all. At my IL’s house we have to leave our dog in the laundry room (which is attached to the living room) and we baby gate her in. It’s really upsetting since they have hardwoods and our dog is fully potty trained, it makes me not want to visit. But it’s their house and their rules…. we knew when we got a dog that traveling would be harder, but to be honest I also wouldn’t want to alienate your sister. Its a tough situation.

Post # 13
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MrsStormy: Yes, it really does make you visit/like visiting less. My dogs haven’t been to any family houses in YEARS; we’ll only go if we can be back in a reasonable amount of time. It’s much easier now that we live much closer, but before we moved yeah, we wouldn’t go home for over-night visits unless there was some sort of necessity.

Post # 14
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry I’m with you on this one. I dont care what anyone says, a 6 nth old puppy is never fully potty trained as they are still developing their bladder. Plus putting a puppy in a brand new environment is asking for accidents, it will happen. It’s your home and I feel your choice. FWIW I have 2 labs and I could never impose on someone by bringing them along, that’s what boarding is for.

Post # 15
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I have an eleven month old puppy that we don’t leave at home when we go away. Whenever we go to family functions for a holiday, we take her with us because it means we will be away from the house for 10+ hours. That being said, when we are in someone elses home, we ask if the dog is allowed. If they say no, the dog stays at my parents and we leave wherever we are to let her out. Also, she never sleeps uncrated, even though she does at home. (Except at my Dad’s, my sister throws a fit if she can’t sleep with the puppy, lol)

I think your sister is being completely insensitive to the fact that she is responsible for any damage her puppy may do and that you are simply trying to prevent that damage. As PP’s said, I would just lay out the rules very clearly and if she decides that this won’t work for her, then that is her problem.

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