(Closed) Purposely Not Serving the Wedding Cake…

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 77
2266 posts
Buzzing bee

@Treejewel19:  There’s no way that’s a trend.
In that case.. I’m starting a new one.

We are going to have a beautiful buffet for everyone to look at. And then box it up and take it home.

How stupid can you get? Did they think they’d be able to eat that much cake if it hadn’t gone bad? 

Post # 78
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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@bleusteel:  Hilarious! 🙂

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@Treejewel19:  I’ve never heard of this either and would have found it very odd.  I also would have been disappointed, because good cake is definitely something I would look forward to at a wedding.

I think it is impolite to display any food or beverage item publicly at a wedding that is not also available to all of the guests.  I attended a wedding once where the couple was having surf and turf and all the guests were having chicken.  If you can’t afford to feed your guests surf and turf, then wait until your honeymoon to enjoy it yourselves.  Likewise, do not even go through a cake-cutting ritual unless you intend to serve cake to your guests.  Otherwise, cut something of whatever dessert (pie, cupcakes, etc.) that you plan to serve to your guests.

Post # 79
11734 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Never heard of this. Though, I do wish I had requested to have esome of our cake wrapped up for us to take home, since we didn’t get any at all.  Our top tier we have frozen, but it’s carrot cake – which I hate (but DH loves, so I got it for him as a surprise!)

Post # 80
10627 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

We kind of did this.  We had to pay a ridiculous amount for the caterers to serve the cake.  If we served it ourselves, that didn’t have to be paid.  We had the fancy cake DH and I cut into and fed each other, but we mostly served sheet cakes from the same baker at the wedding.  It was just faster to cut up, and fondant isn’t very tasty anyway.  The rest of the cake was served the next day at the BBQ, when there was more time, lighting and space to take it apart and cut it up.  We did save the top layer for our anniversary.

Not serving any cake when there’s a whole real cake is bizzare.


Post # 81
1065 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@joya_aspera:  “I think some people are really getting lost in the fluff and need to be re-grounded in reality.”

Thank you. Do we need a refresher on the kindergarten rule, “bring enough for the whole class”? 

The cake is not an accesory. It’s not another box on the “Necessary Wedding Stuff” list. The cake is traditionally served at weddings because people have cake at parties. And the couple cutting the cake? Yeah, the bride used to SERVE each guest a piece, representing her new role as wife/hostess/homemaker/what have you.

Post # 82
12242 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

How bizarre! We had enough cake for 60 and only 44 guests. We took the other servings home (FIL tried to STEAL them! They were in his fridge, and he kept saying that he “didn’t know where it was”. But Mother-In-Law brought them out for us)

So we froze the top tier, and I ate the other 10 servings. We had a week-long gap between our wedding and our honeymoon, so I enjoyed it!

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