push present

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 76
Member
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t ask for a push present, but I do think that commemorating such a momentous occasion as the birth of a child with a piece of jewelry that could then be passed down is very sweet. My husband’s best friend is very pro-push presents (he got his wife diamond studs when she had their first child a few months ago) and I’m sure will encourage him to do something, but I won’t be upset if he doesn’t since the money is probably better spent on more practical things. 

Post # 77
Member
9546 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m seeing a lot of women saying that they don’t see it as a reward for giving birth, but more so a celebration of a wonderful day – so are you all getting a present for your husband? Genuinely curious, as that’s not what I usually hear about, but I don’t have any real life experience with this, so maybe that’s how it’s done.

So are all you bees who would like a gift at the birth of your child going to be getting a present for your husband?

Post # 78
Member
930 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Why is this so controversial? I don’t view it as ‘payment for services rendered’, but as commemorating an amazing event. When my babies are born I would like to get a slim band of their birthstones to stack with my wedding rings, and eventually pass down to them. I haven’t mentioned this to Darling Husband, since I’ll likely just buy them myself. But I would be pleased if Darling Husband surprised me with something, but not in the least bit upset if he didn’t. It’s a sweet gesture though.

Post # 80
Member
6190 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

priyawouldntwannabeya:  agreed. same with me. i fully intend to get a birthstone band or SOMETHING with the baby’s birthstone if i ever have one … it doesnt matter who buys it, either. its all the same money …

Post # 81
Member
9546 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

MrsMcQN:  That sounds nice. If that’s the case, the term “push present” is not only unpleasant but inaccurate. if anything it would be a birthday present! I find it all much nicer when it’s a mutual gift giving thing, rather than one sided, which is what I’ve usually heard, in the past. 

Post # 82
Member
3611 posts
Sugar bee

For us, no way. SO is spending a chunk of change on my e-ring and I truly don’t ever want him to spend money on a present for me again after this.

In the abstract, I think it can be a nice idea. My dad was doing his residency when he married my mom and barely had any money to buy her a ring, so he bought her an upgrade as a push present a few years later. IMO, having a baby is a much more significant milestone in a marriage than even a silver or golden anniversary, so why not?

Post # 83
Member
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I agree the term push present is a big ….well…graphic. I’d be lying if I said the gift from my hubby will be totally commemorative. It more a token of his esteem for a job well done. Being pregnant even when your overjoyed to be is a sacrifice. You sacrifice your body, and sometimes your mind…lol to another being. I’m not saying it’s not a gift to be able to do so, but nonetheless it’s a sacrifice. A gift from my husband is his way of acknowledging this incredible feat we as women complete to create another life. 

Post # 84
Member
6526 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

MrsMcQN:  its pretty common where i live but i dont think Darling Husband knkws about the idea of a push present and i dont want to say anything bc i dont want him to think im expecting anythig

Post # 85
Member
9813 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Haha…I don’t mind the idea of getting your wife a nice gift for carrying your baby and delivering.  That is a lot of work! 

But the term “push present” makes me die inside.  I don’t think I could ever call it that if I received one.

Darling Husband needs to get me a breastfeeding present or something. I think that’s been more work than the pregnancy was lol.

Post # 86
Member
3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I definitely don’t expect anything – except a sub from Jimmy John’s with a pickle and chips 😉 I’ve been telling my Darling Husband since the first trimester that I expect someone to order me a sandwich after the baby is out.

Post # 87
Member
3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I personally think they’re absurd. My push present is my baby!

Post # 88
Member
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I managed to get Darling Husband to agree to earrings in the baby’s birthstone. We were team green, and since we had a girl, this present will be especially sweet, since I’ll pass the earrings on to her someday.

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors