(Closed) Push present

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is a push present important to you?
    Yes! Its the least he can do. : (22 votes)
    16 %
    Yes, but I am ok if he doesn't : (27 votes)
    20 %
    Doesn't really matter, I'll take it if he gets me one : (54 votes)
    40 %
    I actually DON'T want one, I think it is silly : (31 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 32
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would say that my new baby should be my push present! After all, what piece of jewelery, etc. could compare to my newborn baby?

    Post # 33
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    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i’m okay with getting a gift.. but knowing my husband, i’ll be lucky to get flowers!

    Post # 34
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    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think a new pair of diamond earrings will work just fine for a push present.

    Post # 35
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’d rather use the money for a babymoon than get a push present

     

    Post # 36
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    1154 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t know, when I first heard of it my reaction was not positive.

    But.  A woman does all the work of creating a baby – literally her body takes the raw material and creates and grows a human being – the work is all hers.  Biology does not allow for equality here.

    I would hope that any women who has a baby wants to have one and so would do it whether or not her husband was around.  But since I won’t be a single mom I’m going to be ‘gifting’ him with something when I’m doing this work – I’m going to make him a father with a lot less physical labor than which I have to undergo to become a mother – a lovely gift of gratitude and adoration would not be turned down.  🙂

    And I think a baby is not a gift – it is a human being with all of its own individuality and opinions and relationships.  I mean, I get what people mean when they say that – I’ve succumbed to refering to my Fiance as a ‘gift’ in my own head once or twice.  And having loving relationships in one’s life it totally a gift but I would still say that a baby is too complicated to be considered a “gift”. 

    Also, when you’re pregrnant/have a baby/have a child I think it’s easy to get so consumed in the “mother” that you forget the “woman” so something that’s just for the woman and has no relationship to the child – oh like rubies – is a nice reminder of your own other side.

    Post # 37
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @crissycakes: ooh! totally agree!! we are planning a trip to alaska for our first anniversary, and if all goes as planned, we will have a little one to take along!

    Post # 38
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I want something shiny. And a promise to do laundry for a few weeks. This is pretty much non-negotiable.

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