(Closed) Push Presents!?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 62
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@QuirkySocialite:  +1 i totally agree. its a token of what you have created together. why not! doesnt have to be thousands, only a few dollars! its the gesture.

Post # 63
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it depends. If my husband gave me a locket necklace or something to commemorate the birth, just to say “thank you”, I mean, that’s a sweet gesture. Do I want a prada bag? Er, no. 

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think something with the baby’s birthstone would be nice.  DH says the baby is my present… so maybe I will buy something for myself 🙂

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@cowgirlace:  agreed. If/when Fiance and I have kids I plan to buy very thin (1mm) eternity bands in either their birthstone or gender specific diamond color. I see lots of people with family rings, and I cannot see myself wearing one but stacking rings I would for sure. I doubt I would get a ‘push present’, but I would like to do that to commemorate and have in place of a traditional family ring.

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My husband got me a ring to commemorate the birth our son.  It’s his birthstone and it’s very simple and elegant.  I really appreciated the thought and care that he went through to pick it out.  I don’t think women “need” a push present, but I think the idea of a piece of jewelry or something else special to mark the occasion is nice. It could also be given at the next gift giving holiday too of course.

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t get any kind of presents with my 3 kids, but several of my friends did.  

Post # 68
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Not pregnant, and don’t ever plan on it. The term “push present” has always kind of grossed me out though. If people want to get/give presents when a baby is born, go for it – but just call it something else! 

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My Dh LOVES to gie gifts so i am pretty sure that I will get one.

We work with jewelry and tanznaite is given to women in Africa when they give birth.

Combine that with the fact he is from south Africa and that Tanznaite is my birth stone, I can pretty nuch guess that that is what I will get.

i don’t like the word “push present” but if a hsuband wants to give one or the wife wants one, who cares.

I have never had a baby, but I imagine that it isn’t too easy and you feel like shit for a lot of the pregnancy and birth. After, you dont get much sleep, worry etc. If a prada bag makes you happy and you can afford it, why not?

Post # 70
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@pinkshoes:  This, exactly!

I would be shocked if I didn’t get a push present but that is just the type of guy my DH is. What is so wrong with giving something special to the woman who just gave birth to your new child? Any time my DH wants to give me a little something I will gladly accept…even if I am sweaty, exhausted and have a new infant on my chest.

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@coffeecoop:  +1

Candidly speaking, I think it’s a personal decision and I hate when women put other women down for receiving one or wanting one. I get that the baby is a present unto itself but honestly, it’s not easy carrying a baby for 9 months (between the heart burn, the aches and pains and the vomiting) and then going through L&D (and recovery). It’s one thing to say “it’s not for me” but I think it’s kind of offensive to say “it’s ridiculous/demeaning/greedy”. Granted, I’m getting one and I’m appreciative of the fact that DH thinks that he should get me something for it. I think that the women that demand something outrageously expensive (that’s not in the budget) ruin it for women who just want a little token of appreciation.

Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Kandiss16:  I am not a gift person- I’d rather he pay for a dog walker and a house cleaner with that money. I did tell him about is as a friend and I were shopping and she chose some diamond earrings as her push present. He was clueless, but I don’t really care about it. 

I highly doubt that most men think to themselves “oh I should get her diamond earrings or this Coach bag” when their wife is having a baby. Push presents are coming from women asking or implying that they would like a gift. 

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@Steampunkbride:  a beer sounds like a fantastic idea!!!  

Post # 74
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Buzzing Beekeeper

The baby in my arms will be the best present I could ever receive <3

Post # 75
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@MusicBee76:  @Rachel631 

It was terrifically good beer too! Some of the more, er, “princessy” types on the ward looked down their noses but for sure, my beer tasted a helluva lot better than their flowers and cutesy little balloons would have done! Even the nurses said it was a great present too!

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@sailor:  This this this. I have no problems with gifts/jewellery/flowers/all the bells and whistles to commemorate the event, but I HATE the term “push present.” I think it’s such a crude descriptor. Call me a prude, I don’t care. Furthermore, it feels like….rewarding the wrong part of the entire process. “Here’s your payment for the physical labour” vs “Let’s celebrate the wonderful gift of new life together!”

 

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