(Closed) Push Presents!?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 92
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We call it a baby bauble seeing as how I won’t be doing any pushing. C-section when the time comes.

Post # 93
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My husband is buying me a band to wear with my rings. It will be the baby’s birthstone; not really a push present (i think they’re bizarre)… but just a gift, and it was all his idea!

Post # 94
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What is a push present?

I opted to send my friend (who is like my sister) a Kate Spade wallet to celebrate the birth of her first child… Instead of flowers, partly because we live across country from one another, and i thought it would be a nice gesture? Is that what this is called ‘a push present’?

I didn’t really have family growing up, so she’s most like family to me, and it’s not something I would do for anyone and everyone… But i love her, and I thought it would be a nice gesture. Im also going to bring her husband some golf stuff when I get home, it didn’t seem like a “mail” type of gift lol

 because we’re so far we don’t see anyone’s (so far just DH’s cousins) babies for a few months, so when we make it home we bring the mom flowers and gifts for the baby… I mean, I didn’t think there was anything wrong with giving a new mom something too…?

But I have no babies, and have very few friends that have kids, and not close friends really… So I’m not entirely clear on the ettiquette!

Post # 95
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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@ishafortin:  no, a push present is a gift from the husband (or baby’s father) for giving birth. Often it is jewelry or an expensive bag or something like that. 

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kandiss16:  I dont see anything wrong as long as your hubby can afford it. I wouldnt be sad if I didnt get anything, because my Baby will be the best present in the world!

Buuuut Hubby said he will get me the Prada bag I’ve been talking about for awhile and I dont think I will say no  😉

Post # 98
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ugh, I had never heard the term before and still wish I had not. What a terribly tacky, crass  term to use for giving a gift upon the birth of a child. 

 

Post # 99
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t see anything wrong with receiving a push present.  DH asked me if I wanted one (his mom was encouraging him to get me one).  But I said no because I’m not really into jewelry and I could think of alot of other things I’d rather do with ‘our’ money.  I ended up getting newborn photos taken of our son and I called that my push present since they were pretty expensive!

Pregnancy/motherhood is hard work and I think it’s nice when a husband wants to reward his wife with a nice present to commemorate the event.  That’s just my 2 cents.

Post # 100
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@mamadingdong:  Thanks! I’m such a newb to baby stuff lol

Post # 101
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My Christmas present is more expansive than what we usually go for, but it is also my anniversary and my “thank you for carrying my two babies back to back and going under the knife twice so we can have a great family” present. 

It is a family ring that I wanted to get once our family was complete. I fell in love with it months ago and it came on clearance, 30% off… So I told my DH, who always asks what I want for presents, that this is what I’d love the most, but that it was more expansive than usual for a single gift. So it could stand for a few different occasions, including the having our babies part. I Was planning on getting it for myself if he wasn’t going to give it to me. But he was totally on board and the gesture is very special to me.

so, not a push present but a bigger Christmas present to commemorate this special year where our family is complete.

honestly I don’t see anything wrong with a push present. Yes, the baby is the greatest gift, but it is also a great gift to your husband, and women sacrifice a lot during pregnancy, go through hell during labor and delivery (at least I did, my experience was very difficult for the first and I’m gearing myself up for another c-section), and then they have to live with a whole new, not improved, body until they can get their body back, if ever. And then, do it all over again once it’s over. The man gets the same baby without all the pains and discomfort, so I think if a man wants to give a gift to his wife to thank her for all of it, it’s really sweet. Why are people so judgey?

Post # 102
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Busy bee

I got push presents with Dear Daughter and will for our next baby as well. I had a miserable pregnancy and so my DH told me I deserved to have whatever I wanted. A baby came out of me so if he wants to shower me with gifts why would I say no….

This will be our last baby. I’ll for sure get a band for each kid with birthstones. A watch or new bag will probably be what he goes with.

Post # 103
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Busy bee

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@SoonToBee2013:  exactly, if our DH ana afford to get us a gift and we aren’t demanding the gift or being jerks why should we not just accept the gift, say thank you, and be happy….

Post # 104
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m 19 weeks pregnant and already got my ‘push present’, a diamond eternity band. It will also serve as my birthday and Christmas gift since it was a splurge. Personally, I hate the term ‘push present’, it sounds indulgent and childish, not to mention, what if I need a c-section? But, we have always given eachother gifts for special life events, why would birth be different? Also, I’m planning on giving him a gift too (a camcorder).

Post # 105
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t have a problem with the term “push present”, I think it’s kind of funny.  People like to give gifts for special occaisions (birthdays, holidays, graduations, new house, etc) so why not to a new mom after giving birth?

Post # 105
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I really don’t see the issue with wanting to comemorate the birth of your child and express your love and happiness to your partner with a gift.  I would probably want sushi.

ETA: CRAP.  Sorry I resurrected this really old thread.  I thought I was resurrecting a very recent thread because my Fiance and I were talking about it after I read about it maybe a couple days ago.  I didn’t realize the search engine wouldn’t put the most recent first.  Sorry sorry sorry. -_-‘

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