Post # 1
I honestly have no relationship with this woman other than working for the same company (we don’t work on the same side of the building, She’s much older than me, she is the HR manager and I am an engineer)…I have great relationships with EVERYONE in the office so I don’t have an attitude problem (I’m pretty laid back so I tend to get along with everyone). Well this woman has made my work life hell since I started 6+ years ago. She’s very childish and petty. She was close to one of our coworkers whom I dated then engaged to. He passed away (before the wedding..but that’s a story for another day). She made life difficult back then starting fights with me (which I ignored because who does that? she’s in her 50s and I’m in my late 20s btw). I ignored all her attempts out of respect for my then bf/fiance..
She laid off me for 2 years after the passing of my former fiance. She was actually nice to me so I would attempt small talks here and now…fast forward to now…and I’m back on her Sh*t list again for some reason. She’s giving me grief about a chair and is being rude and outright nasty to me. She wrote a nasty email in which case got me terribly upset. My boss saw me crying and inquired and he had a talk with her. I can’t understand what changed.. I don’t talk to her even about work (she’s actually the worst HR in the history of HRs). Now I feel terrible because my boss had a closed door talk with her and she huffed and puffed on her way out. If she’s going back to her old ways, I’m going to stand up for myself and if I have to get her fired..so be it. I feel sorry for her because she is never married and doesn’t seem to have anyone in her life so I don’t want to have to go to the extreme, but I don’t want to keep getting beat down by her for no reason at all.
Has anyone ever worked with someone so weird? I can’t imagine I’m the only lucky girl!
Post # 3
It’s difficult to understand what is going on from your post. You probably should not discuss specifics on a public forum. However, you need to document (for yourself) what is going on. I don’t understand the chair thing…..but if she is “out” for you, keep good documentation and never stoop to her level. You may need to pursue legal counsel.
Post # 4
Yes, I have worked with people like this at every job. At my first job a coworker (woman old enough to be my mother) was very rude. Everyone called her “scary Mary.” When I broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years I can into work kindof upset. And when I told her what happened she said, “Well we should have taken an office pool of how long that relationship would last.” I said, “actually, I’m quite hurt over it.” (I said it in a bitchy tone, so I think she figured I was mad.) The next day she gave me a present. I opened it and it was a book. The book is called “It’s called a breakup because it’s broken.” …..hey, at least it wasn’t, “He’s just not that into you.”
Post # 5
Ugh, I hear ya! Thankfully my nemesis quit a few months ago but here it goes…
I’m an auditor for a retail chain and my department at that time was pretty small (me, this girl, another co-worker and our boss). Since I’ve worked for the company this girl had some major attendance issues. This time 2 years ago she went out on leave to go to rehab. Now, I was happy that she was trying to deal with her addiction but I wasnt happy about having to pick up all of her work ontop of still doing all of mine. So, shes out for like 6 months, comes back and continues to have attendance issues. Every time she would call in, I would have to do her work. We started keeping track and not including her 6 month leave, she called in about 85 times that year alone (it was always atleast once a week). How could she still be employed, you ask? NO FREAKIN CLUE!
I called in sick one day with a MIGRAINE and she was supposed to handle my stores for the day. Well apparently she had a “family emergency” so she couldnt come in. My boss called me since one person can’t possibly handle everyone on their own so I came in. Theres a shortcut to get to our office that cuts through the mall so as I was taking the shortcut, who did I see walking into the mall with her boyfriend? Why, yes… THIS GIRL! I was livid! I told my boss about it but he was too much of a pussy to do anything.
Anyways, after that I lost all respect for her. I chose to just simply not speak to her. I wasnt mean to her at all, I just basically ignored her. I would talk to her if it was work related but anything other than that just wasnt going to happen. Fast forward a few months and our boss is laid off. Our other co-worker and I always joked about this girl and our boss having something going on since they were always giggling together. So, after our boss was laid off this girl realizes that shes no longer going to get away with the things that she used to. She went to HR and told them that I was rolling my eyes at her. ROLLING. MY. EYES.
I got called into a meeting where I was SCREAMED at by the HR nazi for like 15 minutes. Never in my life have I been spoken to the way this woman spoke to me for rolling my eyes at my worthless co-worker. I couldn’t even speak I was so angry. Fiance works for the same company and is well respected there. The HR nazi didn’t know that he was my fiance at the time but has since attempted to kiss my ass. No thanks lady, I will never forget the things she said to me!
A few days later, this girl quit and we actually threw a party. Like literally, I made cupcakes! Sure my workload has more than doubled but I got a nice raise and last I heard, this girl is still on the unemployment line…
Post # 6
Sorry for being unclear in my original vent…i just get all wrapped up and can’t think straight.
My coworker and I exchanged chairs because he didn’t like his chair. He has an office and I sit at a cubicle (which means his chair was slightly better than mine). She saw his chair in my cubicle and confronted us. We explained to her the mutual decision to exchange. So she was cool about it, but must have changed her mind when she went back to her desk because she sent me an email telling me how it was a “manager’s chair” and that if my coworker didn’t want it, that it will go to someone else. We thought it was just a weird email so we ignored it. That was two weeks ago. She said I could use it until the new manager starts. I told her that was fine and that i’ll return it then. I guess maybe she changed her mind too because this morning, she emailed my boss and us (my coworker and I) trying to get the chair from me so I went and took it her! I returned it so and got an unused chair.. which prompted her emailing me and telling me I was not to touch office equipment/furniture without consulting with her first. I was dumb founded but told her I was GOING to use it until I bring my own chair if they are unable to supply me with one! I was upset and felt like she just picked on me for no reasons which made me tear up. So yup..all the stress over a chair (what’s sad is that it is a true story!).
I chalk it up to her being miserable with her life and trying to drag me down with her..i’m just tired of it. I don’t want to quit to get away from her because I LOVE my job!!
Post # 7
Oh, okay, I understand now. She’s a bitch. Seriously, girl. Document…you won’t win this one. It’s a freakin chair. This is no such thing as a manager’s chair….. I mean what do the people at the bottom of the corporate ladder sit on….cardboard?
I’m sorry, she’s hateful…….and she’s HR. Wow, ….. sorry.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies..she just hates that all the girls in our office (other women engineers) are successful perhaps? IDK..She gives them a hard time too..and I don’t fight back because I do feel sorry for her, but it is getting out of hand and I just can’t sit there and take it anymore. I felt I owed it to my deceased former fiance to be civil with this woman because they were good friends, but enough is enough! Thank you for listening to me vent. I should be thankful she waited until one day after my birthday! 🙂
Post # 10
I know how it feels to be treated poorly at work by a nasty older female co-worker. This woman sent me nasty emails at least once a week and was always just plain mean spirited and hateful towards me. It got so bad that I actually had a breakdown at work and my co-worker saw me crying and went to to one of the owners of the company. Long story short, she was prevented from having any kind of interaction with me- no speaking, no emails, no nothing. I really liked my job at one point too, until her harrassment plus the pettiness of that place got the better of me and I ended up leaving. You’re definitely not alone when it comes to this sort of thing!