Post # 17
I just had a big parental thing happen over Christmas and we were originally going to get married early July, book quite a bit actually, and they asked us to move it to November. We didn’t really have a choice bc I just got laid off and we make entry level wages anyways. We agreed bc it’s only another 4 months and now that money stress is lifted I find the process fun again. Luckily all our vendors agreed to move the date up with no fees and since we had a two part honeymoon booked we actually have to go on our cruise in July because we could’nt cancel without heavy fees! It’s exciting to get a nice vacation to make up for the extra four months. It was already been a long engagement, we got engaged Sept. of 2008 so it will be over a two year engagement! We’ve been secretly engaged since we first met though!
Post # 18
i wouldn’t want to wait to get married, but i personally don’t give a damn about the wedding and just want to be married. i’d be happy eloping. i would think more about the reasons that you’re worried about putting the wedding off though. i’m sure people would understand if it’s for financial reasons and not worry about your relationship, and if they do, than who cares what they think, you know your relationship is strong. and you’ll have lots more time, and money, to get all of the planning done.
Post # 19
you still have basically ten months to save up money. if you guys are not planning to have a platnium wedding and honeymoon, money should not be an issue.
Post # 20
When we were setting a date we tossed around the idea of pushing it back a year. It wasn’t for financial reasons but I am so glad we didn’t! I know having a long engagement works for some girls, and some even feel it’s necessary but it wouldn’t have been right for us. I was ready to be done with our wedding even with the shorter 8 month engagement!
I suggest taking a look at the way you two function and how big of a hit your finances would take. If you were planning on spending $20,000 but can only raise $2,000 and still really want a big wedding postponing might be best. If you’re looking at say, $10,000 to $5,000, I think you can probably pull it off. If you like taking on a project and then working on it until it’s done, I would say don’t wait. If you’re happy working on something for a bit and then setting it aside for awhile before coming back to it again, etc. you might be ok.
Post # 21
I agree with the others who have said to get married in 2010 and postpone the honeymoon. It sounds like you really want to get married, and I think your suspicion that you’ll be really sick of wedding planning by 2011 is spot-on. Go forth and marry.
Post # 22
I understand what this poster is going through – Except in our case, we never had the money coming in from our parents. What we have is no money coming from anywhere and are hardly able to afford our wedding. I do think with the time of year we are getting married, we will likely go the “mini-moon” route also on our one year anniversary rather than wait an extra year to be married.
A couple people have told me its a rotten idea (my brother did this and they never made it to the real honeymoon because they decided to have a baby). I know that a baby isn’t in our timeline because I won’t be done with college. College is one thing, but I’m a full time worker who has a nasty commute, then I do night/online school through a full fledged University on top of that…. so I’m very seriously considering postponing the honeymoon.
Suffice to say – I agree, get married in 2010. 🙂
Post # 23
We had a long engagement and there was nothing wrong with it. We’ve actually set a date although nothing was booked and no cards were sent out but pushed it back. You’ll be together for the rest of your lives. Waiting a year is nothing!
Post # 24
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
Thanks everyone! I spoke with my Fi about this today, and he completely supports me and says that it’ll be fine to get married in 2010, so yayy! We never did have big wedding plans, we’ve always wanted to keep it small, so we’ll just have to really make a much more conscious effort to save–he’s pledged to give $150 a week, and I’ve pledged $100 a week until October.
Yes, this is a lot and we’ll have to cut back on some of our frivolous expenses when it comes to dining out, buying expensive wine, etc, but we’ll make it work. He knows that I’ll go crazy if I have to plan that much longer, and trust me…that’s the last thing he wants!!
It’s a shame that we won’t have the support of his family, but we’ll make it all the more special by doing it completely our way where we don’t have to worry about his parents holding anything over our heads or guilting us into doing something that isn’t us.
Thanks as always, bees!