(Closed) pushing back the wedding…again

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Do you guys live together?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

see if there is and win your dream wedding sweepstakes in your area… racheal ray show has three wedding theme shows on its be on segment

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t give anyone a date or talk any plans until the two of you absolutely have things set in stone. My Fiance and I have set a date for September but haven’t told anyone as of yet and wouldn’t probably share for a few more months.

I’m sorry you two are having such bad luck with finding jobs I hope you find something soon and are able to get married !

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@jbbs1222:  I am sorry.. I know how disappointing this must be.  You are definitely doing the smart thing by waiting.  But if you absolutely dont want to wait, could the two of you move in together with his parents or your parents?  Its not an ideal situation but at least you would be married and you could save up $$ in the meantime..

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

what about getting married at city hall and then having a potluck-style backyard BBQ reception?  Maybe it isn’t exactly what you always dreamed of, but you could make it very affordable and at the end of the day you’d be married.  Maybe for your 5th wedding anniversary or something you could do a vow renewal and have it be more like what you were hoping for now?  obviously it is hard to deviate from your dreams, but if you have to keep pushing off being married, and you’ve both had a hard time finding a job for a while now, why not just get married and now spend a lot of money on it?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jbbs1222:  So sorry you are having to go through this!  Wow, 2 years is a LONG time to be unemployed.  Are you in a rural area?  Not finding your specific line of work?  Are you getting unemployment at the momnent?  Just wondering how you paid for the existing things already.

I think it is smart to hold off on the wedding.  Being able to stand on your own two feet is the priorty here.

Do you really really really want a wedding?  Would it be the worst thing ever if you two got married once you were established with jobs like at the courthouse?

 

I would not even put April as the projected date as you currently don’t even have jobs or income.  You could end up moving it again since there are too many unknowns on the financial side still.

 

I have been in the place where you’re just super anxious to get a month picked.  I’ve been there.  But make sure you have your ducks in a row, including some savings and emergency funds that are not going to the wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sorry to hear about having to postpone the wedding again. Have you thought about moving to another part of the country where unemployment isn’t quite so high? 2 years is a long time to be unemployed and sometimes you have to do something quite drastic to break the cycle.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ferdie224:  I second this! Why wait? Why not just elope and celebrate by throwing a pot luck! You really just want everyone to celebrate your love but it shouldn’t have to cost much and your loved ones will understand this completely! you don’t have the means to throw a big wedding now but not get married! When you’re able to, a vow renewal sounds beautiful.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I just want to add, those who know your your financial situation should not be pressuring you guys about this knowing how expensive weddings are! They’re being extremely rude/insensitive.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Madelin:  Ditto!  That is a very good point!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@sienna76: @Madelin:  +1

The wedding is not the important part, the marriage is. Your long term finances are far more important than a wedding. I’d take a house and a healthy savings account over a wedding any day of the week.

I would also stop updating friends until you have a finalized date. Then they have nothing to get annoyed about!

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