(Closed) Pushing the date back….

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

How much weight do you have to lose?

Post # 5
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@autumnlynnhill:  That definitely sounds like something I would do! 

Post # 6
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I personally wouldn’t push back a wedding date just to lose more weight. There are lots of full-figured brides who look beautful on their wedding days and you’ll be surprised how much of a change you can see in just a few months if you really take fitness seriously. Why not focus on losing a much as you can before the wedding, and continuing to lose afterward. That could help you avoid the common phenomenon where women lose a lot for the wedding and then start gaining it back once they’re married.

Post # 7
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I got married near my highest weight. Yeah, it would have been nice to be thinner, but planning a wedding can be ridiculously stressful – couple that with hardcore dieting and working full-time, not to mention whatever else life throws at you, and you might be ready for a nervous breakdown by the time your big day finally arrives.

It’s always a good time to make healthy changes and exercise, but it strikes me as sad when women put things off in their lives simply because they’re unhappy with how they look. You could rock a dress and look gorgeous NOW, not a year-plus from now! πŸ™‚  You never know what might change over the next year. Carpe diem and all that good stuff.

Besides, if people are noticing anything but how happy and beautiful you look, their heads aren’t screwed on right. And your husband-to-be asked you to marry him the way you look now, yeah? Don’t sell yourself short.

Post # 9
13 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

Well not sure pushing the date back would be a good idea. I’ve had friends gain weight from the stress and lose more weight, so much so that they can’t get the dress taken in enough! Also something to remember/ think about with weight loss: my sister lost about 75 lbs over the past year. She did this through constant working out and working with Jenni Craig. She went from a size XL to XS tops, but she still hates her body. I think the biggest thing is to enjoy this happy time in your life, the fact you have a man who loves you for you and will love you no matter your size. 

But don’t get me wrong, you are awesome for wanting to be healthier and lose weight safely. I have found eating clean and more protein/ veggies have helped so much. Start researching eating clean and go lift weights! Muscle burns fat! πŸ™‚ good luck!

Post # 10
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@autumnlynnhill:  I think it’s awesome that you’re looking to get healthier. I agree with Happygolucky831 that you should be focusing on making changes to your diet and lifting weights. Vegetables are an amazing source of many vital vitamins and nutrients, but they also help to fill you up without making you consume large amounts of fat and calories the way that processed foods can.

Between Sophomore and Senior years of college I wound up gaining about 20-30 pounds. I’m 5’6″ and at my heaviest I probably weighed around 165-170. I wasn’t obese, but I wasn’t happy with myself. When I told my boyfriend that he said pretty much the same thing your fiance said though; lose weight if you want, but don’t you dare lose that butt or those boobs (lol!). It wasn’t until I moved back in with mom and dad and started going to see my doctor that I lost weight.

Do you go for annual physicals? These can be very useful for helping you stay on track. My Doctor ran blood tests on me to check my thyroid and wound up figuring out that the reason I was exhausted all the time is due to vitamin deficincies, most notably Vitamin B12. When I started taking the vitamins he perscribed I noticed a big difference in my energy levels as well as my weight; changing my diet and cutting out soda completely made a big difference too. I now weigh between 140-145 lbs. and I feel so much healthier. 

Remember that you are beautiful the exact way that you are now. Your fiance loves you for who you are not the size on the label of a dress. He will love you if you lose 100 lbs, if you gain 100 lbs, or if your weight doesn’t change at all. He sounds like a great guy! Smile

Post # 11
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@autumnlynnhill:  I have gained 80 lbs since I met my honey, he doesn’t mind and he thinks I am the most beautiful woman in the world. Don’t put off this big momentus moment because of your weight.


I just started at the community college in my town where they have a gym open for all students so I will be going there 4 days a week. I think just eating healthier and taking walks you could easily lose 50 lbs by your wedding.

Post # 12
3141 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would not push the wedding back another year just to lose weight, it just gives you more time to put it off. your fiancé loves you the way you are today no matter what you weigh. I thought I would lose a bunch of weight in nine months once I ordered my dress a size too small but it just put more pressure on me during a time that is already way too stressful!!! You have known for a year that you were planning a wedding how far have you come in your weight loss goals so far ? 

Post # 13
433 posts
Helper bee


I think that’s really sad.  Don’t put off your wedding just to lose weight.  Life is too short for that.  I’m sure you’ll look beautiful on your wedding day no matter what you weigh.

Post # 15
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was having the same debate and my mother (who was morbidly obese before gastric bypass surgery) told me not to postpone something so important for the 70-80lbs I wanted to lose. She said her weight held her back for so many years and she missed a lot because she wanted to “lose weight first”.

Obviously your situation is your own. It just sounds to me like he loves you so much (INCLUDING the way you look) and wants to marry you. After 10 years, I don’t think I’d wait any longer. He’s happy with you. That isn’t conditional on your weight (or what you think of your weight).

Maybe, in a year or two, you could do a vow renewal? Have a photographer shoot that as well and combine the pictures? That way you could even put together a “journey of our first years of marriage” kind of thing.

Post # 16
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Also, if it helps, I contacted a bariatric doctor who gave me a super easy* diet plan and an appetite suppressant. 6 months later I’m 50lbs lighter. It would be more, but I’ve been slacking on the diet part for the last couple of months.

*easy meaning simple. It was hard to do at first. I cut my carbs down to 30-35 a day, which meant no bread of pasta, etc. But after some time, I could incorporate some back into my meals.

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