(Closed) Pushy family dynamics….help/vent

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Use them as gifts – or have your Bridesmaid or Best Man wear them to the rehearsal dinner.

You are going to have to be on your toes with this family…… for now and forever, til death do you part…. is more than just between you and your hubs.  It’s you and your hubs and his family and your family.

so, you have to put boundaries in place now!

Good luck.

Post # 4
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9551 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t get too worked up about this. But I also wouldn’t use their jewelry since you already have something you like. Just smile and say “Yes, your jewelry is great but I already have all the wedding jewelry I need”. And don’t get super sensitive about the “bridezilla” word. It doesn’t sound like it was directed at you. Basically, don’t cave to them but don’t stress about it, not worth your mental energy.

Post # 5
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Have them make your bridesmaids gifts.

Post # 6
Member
990 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is his family- you need to talk to him and ask him why they are acting this way. You 2 need to talk about this and he needs to be the one to address his family. Don’t sacrifice your day, if you don’t want them then don’t use it. I like your idea of jewelry

Post # 9
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717 posts
Busy bee

stand your ground and continue to be polite, that while you appreciate the offer, it’s already taken care of.  maybe they can help with the rehearsal dinner or bridal shower?  don’t let them bully you from the get go and see what your Fiance thinks about this.  as long as you’re supporting each other, people will just have to get over it.

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