Post # 1
so, I have picked a great person to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, we have been friends forever and been through thick and thin, but lately, she is trying to make all of the bridesmaidy things about her, and to accomodate her. I have 2 other bridesmaids that live where I do and my Maid/Matron of Honor lives 3 hours away, she insists that everything be in her town and not ours, and she wants everything done her way. I’ve never really had much of a backbone and I’m needing to get one, any ideas of how to tell her that this is my wedding and that she needs to stick to original plans I have made to fit everyone’s schedule and not just hers???
Post # 2
KateriPetrie: Hi Maid/Matron of Honor ,
There are 3 people in the bridal party.
We need to stick to original plans I have made to fit everyone’s schedule and not just yours.
Post # 3
julies1949: that pretty much sums it.
Post # 4
KateriPetrie: I think you need to make the plans, and also make it clear that it’s ok if she’s not at things. I say this because I’m wondering if due to her circumstances she thinks it’s hardest for her to travel. So whatever the thing is (say, dress shopping), just make the plan and tell them where and when. If she can make it, great. If she can’t, never mind, you understand.
Anyway, there shouldn’t be *that* many things you girls need to do together, and when she lives 3 hours away you’ve got to expect that the Maid/Matron of Honor can’t be there a lot of the time.