Post # 1
Hi all 🙂
I’m having a bit of a dilemma. I got engaged last June, and went dress shopping soon after. I got a little caught up in the excitement of shopping for the dress and having my mom and BMs with me and ended up rushing into putting a 50% deposit ($700) on a dress (Maggie Sottero – Vogue) in August.
While I really liked the dress, I hadn’t really thought about how I wanted to look on the wedding day and over the last couple months have realized that the Maggie is much too detailed/beaded and that I’d rather wear a much simpler dress. I went into the dress shop to talk to them about this a couple of weeks ago, however the owner of the shop was not there so they couldn’t really tell me anything.
Since then I have found a pre-owned but never worn dress that I love on a pre-owned dress site for only $300. I have talked to the owner of the dress and she is holding the dress for me for a couple of days.
I also finally talked to the owner of the dress shop today (the shop had called to tell me that the dress came in today..yikes..:( and she did not sound too promising that anything could be done about the Maggie..she was going to try to talk to the manufacturer to see if they would take it back, but wasn’t too hopeful. She also said that the dress would be hard for the shop to sell since we ordered it at a custom length (5’5" with shoes)..and she seemed a little annoyed:(..
So I guess I am just looking for any advice as to where to go from here…I really don’t want to just suck it up and wear the Maggie dress because I really don’t feel that it is me, and $300 is such a great deal for a dress that I like a lot more.
However, I feel terrible for putting the shop through so much trouble and don’t want to give them a bad impression as we plan on purchasing our Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and tuxedos from them also..so that makes me feel like I should just keep the Maggie dress but at the same time seems like a pretty bad reason to keep it. My wedding is also over a year and a half away, so that seems like a long time to be hating your dress..
Thanks so much for taking the time to read this – any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
you can try seeing if the owner will allow you to credit the $700 (or perhaps partial) to your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and tuxes? otherwise, bridal gowns are usually non-refundable unless the shop feels they can sell it easily. hope it works out!!
Post # 4
The idea of trying to see if they will give you store credit towards the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and tuxes is a great idea. Perhaps they might be more accommodating once they realize that they aren’t going to lose out on that money entirely.
The ideal situation would be if Maggie Sottero would take the dress back, and if the bridal salon would credit you the $700. If your girls were going to pay for their own dresses, they could just write you a check.
I think the custom length might be a little difficult– that really limits who they could resell the dress to.
If you really feel like the dress isn’t for you, and the bridal salon can’t do anything about it, then try to look into where you can resell the dress. Try Craigslist, here, Ebay, theKnot. People might be more apt to buy it if it wasn’t worn yet. Good luck!
Post # 5
You might also want to try selling it on http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/; perhaps you can get back at least a portion of what you paid for it! Best of luck to you!
Post # 6
The thing is, the shop orders the dress made for you. That’s the reason they collect the deposit. If they are even trying to do something for you, that’s very nice of them – if you read through their policies, you probably owe them not only the deposit but the full price of the dress.
The profit that they make for renting you tuxes and selling you Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses doesn’t really recoup their investment in the wedding dress that you have stuck them with – plus, if I was them, I might be a little reluctant to have you order Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses – who knows whether you will change your mind about them too? Although certainly if they continue to do business with you, there is no excuse for them treating you poorly, you can see how that might happen.
I would at least go try on the dress, and see what you think. After all, you loved it enough to spend your money on it at one time. If you can make it work, that’s probably the best solution. If not, you’re really stuck with paying whatever they say you owe them. And if they say you only owe them the deposit, then you probably don’t get the dress – you only get the dress if you pay the rest of what you owe.
Post # 7
Boy, do I understand!! I did the exact same thing as you. I picked out a dress that I thought i loved and put a deposit down (50%) and then started to feel iffy about it later. Its not a good feeling. After that, I couldn’t stop thinking about how i’d feel on the day of the wedding if I weren’t wearing something that I really loved. So I sucked up the deposit amount and went looking for another dress that I would have no regrets on. If you found a 2nd dress for $300, I say go for it!! I don’t know what your overall budget for your wedding is but $300 for a dress is a steal. You might feel guilty for eating the $700 but in the end, you have to be happy.
The lady at my first dress shop told me I could sell the first dress online (ebay, preowned, etc). Honestly, I could have gone that route, (and I’m not telling you to do this) but I wanted to be done with the it. Out of sight, out of mind. And also, the dress wasn’t a dress that I knew would be very popular with other brides. Maggie Sottero seems to be pretty popular so you might have a better chance selling it on Preowned, especially if its never been worn or altered.
In the end, you have to be happy with how you look on that day. You can skimp in other areas like flowers or other wedding extras.
Post # 8
What size/color is your Vogue dress? I am looking for one right now. Maybe sell it at a discount….you atleast wouldn’t be out of all of your 1400!! 🙂
Post # 9
I know exactly how you feel!!! I did the same thing, but I bought the dress (instead of just putting down a deposit). It may not work the same way, but I called the corporate office of David’s Bridal where I purchased the gown and explained that I was pressured into buying the gown and they gave me a FULL REFUND!!!
Try to call the corporate office and just see if they would give you your money back…even the Maggie Sottero corporate office may do the trick. If not, you definitely should go with the dress that you love. I looked up the Vogue dress and it is GORGEOUS, but I totally understand if it isn’t your style. It is up to you and you should feel like a beautiful, princess on your wedding day And, like others said, you could always try to sell it for $100 off on oncewed, ebay, craigslist, or preowned if you have to buy it. Good luck!!!!!!!
Post # 10
Oh man that is stressful…I know shops around my area aren’t very lenient and I have been told once its ordered, its yours…I’m sure there is some bend somewhere. But if not, I dont think you’d have a problem selling the dress…and event hough you have it custom length, it’ll be easier to sell since you haven’t made any alterations! Good luck 🙂