Post # 1

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Helper bee
so i’ve heard diferent things on this …is it ok to add a lil card with our gift registration information? we are only registered at macys & target i was thinking about doing a biz card size slip in with a pic of macys logo n targets loga with the links in them for our registries.
Post # 3

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Worker bee
@shawndy: I think its a good idea because then you wont be bothered when everyone wants to know if you have one. and I think more people might make use of it instead of just winging it or feeling helpless about guessing what you want.
Post # 4

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Bumble bee
Technically, you’re not supposed to. The information should have been on your shower invites, and people would get it that way. If you didn’t invite everyone to your shower/you didn’t have one, you can make a wedding website, include the information on there, then include your website in your invitations.
Post # 5

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Helper bee
uhmmm i don’t have time to make a wedding website unfortunately …and who knows if there is going to be a shower
Post # 6

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Busy bee
I made a website like all the trendy kids are doin nowadays. You can find some that are free and they don’t take super long if you don’t want to get intense about them. The nice thing about linking them to your registry is that the younger generation can get on your site, find your registry, and be ordering things in like 30 seconds. The bad thing about it, is that if you direct the older generation to the website, they tend to get twitchy in the eye.
Post # 7

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Busy bee
But deep down, I think that sometimes the only people who think including registry info in with invites is tacky are fellow brides to be who read too many magazines, cause i certainly never thought twice about it until I was planning my own wedding, when suddenly it became the big thing not to do.
Post # 8

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Blushing bee
Personally, I don’t think it’s appropriate. But I understand that this is a regional issue. So, if your friends and family have done it or you know that they wouldn’t find it offensive, then it shouldn’t be a problem.
Keep in mind that people generally do know how to find registry information, even if you don’t have a wedding website, by asking parents, the bridal party or Google.
Post # 9

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Helper bee
most of our guests or older…seriously the wedding party is our brothers and sisters and we have literally a handful of friends that are our age and the rest are technophob older peeps also family …we are expecting 70 guests in total
Post # 10

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Helper bee
my cousin put a poem in their wedding invitations asking guests to give them money so they can clear out their debt n start their marraige dept free…now that is something that i was so appauled by that it made me not even want to go to their wedding over it…i thought it was rude and tacky …specially considderring that they had been together for 8yr and had lived together for 7 of those 8yrs,…so i cant decide if i wanna put a card in the invited or on the info page in the invites with our registry info…uhmmm
Post # 11

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Worker bee
@shawndy: I would go for it. No one is going to get so offended by the concept that they’ll make an issue of it and I truely think that it would be easier considering the age of the majority or your guests. I agree with AllShookUp in that the only people who care are the Future Brides.
I just got an invite from my cousin who included a card with the registry information and I felt it was very smart. Not tacky at all
Small Edit the asking for money and including fanacial information is very tacky but direction in where to go is your guest would like to buy a gift they know you want is not
Post # 12

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Helper bee
@AllShookUp: seriously though i never realized how many rules there where …and things that never seemed to matter until i started planning my own wedding and started reading mags n what not saying that so many things are a no no, but the times and circumstances are changing so quickly…i generally feel that weddings arent rly what they used to be…they are still deep down about the two people committing a life to one another, but you know what i mean
Post # 13

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Helper bee
@LisaECole: thanx i have noticed in the DIY secon that a lot of brides have them in their invitations …and i certaintly dont find it as tacky as asking for money to clear debt …in fact most of the few things on the registry are near $50 or under $25…just simple things like a matching everyday dish set…since everything in our house is mix matched from all the hand me downs each of us had gotten before living together now his mix match hand me downs have be come mix matched to my mixed match hand me downs…lol
Post # 14

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Buzzing bee
I put the info in the shower invites, and on the wedding website. No one had any issue finding where we were registered to my knowledge. We got plenty of gifts to prove it!
Post # 15

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Honey bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Our registry info was on the shower invite and is on our web site (web site was on the save the dates, and guest info card in our invites.) The Moms also know, so if anyone asks, they can direct them there.
Post # 16

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Bumble Beekeeper
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Please don’t do this. There is honestly absolutely no benefit. I’ve been married twice, and not a single person was confused about where we were registered either time. Most people will find out from such inserts when you have a shower, others by using the internet, and still more by asking you or your parents directly. But including them, however, you invite reproach and could offend some of your guests. As a good host, you should do everything reasonably possible not to offend guests, whether you think they should be offended or not.