(Closed) Put in an Uncomfortable Situation by a coworker

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
934 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@ethorn13:  You are totally justified in refusing him the use of the discount. Your co-worker was being very forward, and rude, to assume that you would allow him to use your husband’s military discount. 

Why did he believe that was even an option? Have you discussed it with him in the past? Not that it is your fault….I just can’t understand the rudeness. 

Post # 4
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@ethorn13:  I think you are completely in the right! And it sounds like a fine email response you gave, if he even deserved that much. I think it is important that things like this are not abused, there is a reason that military families are given these kinds of discounts, and the reason is not to share with every Tom Dick and Harry who wants to save some money at a Hardware store. Sounds very rude of your coworker – especially since you added you really do nothing with this person outside of work. He was totally trying to take advantage of you which shows no respect for the purpose of the discount – to honor service.

Post # 5
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

“I need to use your military discount”??  He didnt even ask.  I’m glad you said no.

Post # 7
652 posts
Busy bee

@ethorn13:  Yeah, that guy is just disrespectful. If he wants his discount, tell him to go serve for his country and earn it himself. 

Post # 8
7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@ethorn13:  WHAT?! He didn’t even ask… just said he needed it? That is so rude!

Post # 9
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ethorn13:  That was really inappropriate and its even more galling that he didn’t even ask – just told you what he “needed.”  I would have been taken off guard too but good for you for following up and telling him no!  Just remember that its HIM who should feel awkward and embarrassed, not you. 

If he brings this up again or tries to manipulate or bully you into letting him use your discount, shut him down hard.  “My husband earned this discount through his service to our country.  I’m not going to take advantage of the companies that respect that service by defrauding them.  I’m sure you understand.”


Post # 10
150 posts
Blushing bee

@ethorn13:  WOW. the nerve of some people. Should have told him that your plans for lunch are none of his business!

Post # 11
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh! I’m glad you said no. Who just goes up to someone and assumes they can use their discount? I have a civilian military ID and many of my coworkers use theirs for discounts. Honestly though, I never do because I don’t feel like I’ve earned the right to do that – I’ve never been in the military, why should I get a discount just because I’m a fed? Its my understanding that civilians aren’t even supposed to get these discounts, but retailers sometimes don’t know the difference between the IDs.

Post # 12
3151 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@ethorn13:  honestly, i am sure this is a cultural difference. in african communities, the lifestyle is very much “what’s mine is yours.” no need to take offense or anything.

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