Post # 1
UGH! Sorry guys, I just need to vent. A coworker of mine just came to my desk and said, “are you going by Lowe’s at all today?” I was a little confused – no, I have no intentions of going by Lowe’s… so I asked why. He said, “I need to use your military discount. What are your lunch plans?” I was so taken aback and I am such a pushover that I said, “Ok, I am free whenever…”
But, after thinking about it for a few minutes, I sent him an e-mail and said, “Sorry, I’m not comfortable with the situation. They have been really cracking down on fraud lately.”
WTF!?! The more I think about it, the more the situation angers me. It’s not like we are close – we work together, and that is it. We don’t do anything together outside of work. The idea that I would just go and allow my discount to be used for him is baffling. My husband, and many others in the military community, have earned the discounts that are made available to vets. What he or I choose to do with these discounts and benefits is up to us. But, for someone I am not even close with to assume that I would just “loan” my discount for no other reason than he doesn’t want to spend full price on a lawnmower and grill is baffling.
Post # 3
@ethorn13: You are totally justified in refusing him the use of the discount. Your co-worker was being very forward, and rude, to assume that you would allow him to use your husband’s military discount.
Why did he believe that was even an option? Have you discussed it with him in the past? Not that it is your fault….I just can’t understand the rudeness.
Post # 4
@ethorn13: I think you are completely in the right! And it sounds like a fine email response you gave, if he even deserved that much. I think it is important that things like this are not abused, there is a reason that military families are given these kinds of discounts, and the reason is not to share with every Tom Dick and Harry who wants to save some money at a Hardware store. Sounds very rude of your coworker – especially since you added you really do nothing with this person outside of work. He was totally trying to take advantage of you which shows no respect for the purpose of the discount – to honor service.
Post # 5
“I need to use your military discount”?? He didnt even ask. I’m glad you said no.
Post # 6
@LilacViolet: haha no! That is what is so baffling to me! He often says things that are very direct and often catches people off guard – he grew up in Kenya, so I’m not sure if it is a cultural difference or not – but we definitely have never discussed this before. He just responded, “that is totally fine. I have actaully already made the purchase – was just trying to see if I could get some money back.”
Post # 7
@ethorn13: Yeah, that guy is just disrespectful. If he wants his discount, tell him to go serve for his country and earn it himself.
Post # 8
@ethorn13: WHAT?! He didn’t even ask… just said he needed it? That is so rude!
Post # 9
@ethorn13: That was really inappropriate and its even more galling that he didn’t even ask – just told you what he “needed.” I would have been taken off guard too but good for you for following up and telling him no! Just remember that its HIM who should feel awkward and embarrassed, not you.
If he brings this up again or tries to manipulate or bully you into letting him use your discount, shut him down hard. “My husband earned this discount through his service to our country. I’m not going to take advantage of the companies that respect that service by defrauding them. I’m sure you understand.”
Post # 10
@ethorn13: WOW. the nerve of some people. Should have told him that your plans for lunch are none of his business!
Post # 11
Ugh! I’m glad you said no. Who just goes up to someone and assumes they can use their discount? I have a civilian military ID and many of my coworkers use theirs for discounts. Honestly though, I never do because I don’t feel like I’ve earned the right to do that – I’ve never been in the military, why should I get a discount just because I’m a fed? Its my understanding that civilians aren’t even supposed to get these discounts, but retailers sometimes don’t know the difference between the IDs.
Post # 12
@ethorn13: honestly, i am sure this is a cultural difference. in african communities, the lifestyle is very much “what’s mine is yours.” no need to take offense or anything.