Post # 1
I was watching TLC’s A Baby Story this morning (it’s on when I’m getting ready for work) and I couldn’t help but realize how incredibly annoying all the “cheering” is during labor/delivery.
Now I haven’t actually had my baby yet and I expect my nurses and doc to tell me WHEN to push. However, I don’t think I need them to tell me a million times to “Push!” and continue “cheering” me on while I’m doing so.
I’d imagine if a baby is coming out of my vagina and people kept telling me to “Push! As hard as you can!” I’d probably tell them to shut the F up – seriously, don’t they realize that I’m going to try my hardest? (I’ll have to remember to tell my husband this so the poor nurses won’t get an earful). 🙂
Anyone else notice this? Think it’s helpful or super obnoxious?
Post # 3
@camrie: I’ve wondered that too. I hope someone who has gone through the experience can tell us their opinion.
Post # 4
If I can’t feel certain things I might need the extra “a little more, a little harder” cheering but other than the doctors and nurses, I don’t want anyone else in there with me. I work best and get stuff done on my own.
My friends think I’m totally crazy but I’ve even expressed to DH that I don’t need an audience in there. (He’s terrified of all things bloody and gross). Sure, I might change my mind, and if he wants to be in there when it goes down, of course he can, lol. But I’m good on my own. I want to focus, not be scared and get it done. No cheerleaders necessary.
Post # 5
DH has strict orders to stay by my side lest he not be tramatized by blood and guts and pass out. Of course he looked like he was going to pass out in the baby classes so even being out of the line of sight might not help him.
Post # 6
@camrie: huh… I sure as hell didn’t get that when I was trying to deliver my son! of course, I also ended up with a c-section, but that’s beside the point.
I can’t help but wonder if a lot of what they do is just “part of the show”. You know, they wouldn’t do it in an actual delivery room without the cameras, but they have to put on a good show FOR the cameras…
Post # 7
Good point. You may be right (I hope so).
Post # 8
My nurses and doctor didn’t do that at all, and I’ve never seen anyone else’s birth go that way either. Basically it’s just updates on what’s happening “You’re crowning” “You’re going to feel a lot of pressure.” “I know it hurts, but don’t forget to breathe.”
It’s really not very frenetic.
Post # 9
I’m not against him being there, but if he’s going to be a big baby, no thanks – I’d rather focus on the little baby and get him/her here as safely & quickly as possible 🙂
Post # 10
The childbirth class at our hospital said that they no longer count to ten anymore to prevent the annoying cheering.
Post # 11
I am SO happy to read this post. We were watching that show a few weeks ago and I actually got really irritated just listening to other people say it to someone else. I explained to DH that if anyone keeps repeating things to me like “push, push hard, push hard, push hard” I hope he will support me when I tell whoever that is to shut the f*&% up.
A lot of what they said, when it was repeated over and over, got on my nerves. I’m hoping no one does anything super irritating, or that I’ll be too distracted to notice… or of course that they’ll understand when I demand everyone shut it, lol.
Post # 12
I was so surprised during pushing. I really thought everyone was going to be more… energetic or frenzied or something. It wasn’t like that at all; the doctor and the nurses were super chill. One nurse counted for me, and gave me direction a couple times (“push right here,” “stop pushing, the bay’s head’s out,” etc…) but nobody was annoying or cheering me on. I think I got robbed!
Post # 13
LOL this reminds me of the Sex and the City episode where Miranda delivers Brady and makes Carrie promise that there will be no cheerleading in the delivery room. Carrie ahs to shut up an annoying nurse a few times. I was in the room for my friend, and there was minimal cheering. She kept saying “I cant do this!” and everyone was like “yes you can! One more!” but I do think she needed that. Me, Id kill someone. Luckily for me, there wont be any cheering with a c-section
Post # 14
I’m actually really happy to hear that it’s probably mostly “for show”. Calm direct instruction from the nurses is great, hopefully my nurses will be as low-key as yours.
Post # 15
@camrie — that is smart to keep your husband by your side! there are enough people who are on the receiving end, so no need for a crowd down there 🙂
I think all the pushing and cheering on TV, even in documenatries, is a little overenthusaistic and for show! My husband was standing strictly “north of the border” if you know what I mean, so I didn’t have that problem with him. With the nurses and the doctors, it was super low-key. I got into the delivery room a little late in the game and my baby was coming fast, so in between pushes, everyone was still rushing around setting up the monitor, getting into place. If you’ve never done it before, it’s helpful to get direction to know when to push, when to stop. Also, I was apparently ‘pushing with my face’ and not ‘pushing with my body’ so some coaching was useful. But seriously, when you’re pushing or going through a contraction, your body becomes so focused on one thing that I swear you lose your ability to speak. It was kind of crazy. I could hold a normal conversation with anyone in between contractions, but when they came, I could not talk and could barely open my eyes. So, even if I got annoyed, I couldn’t really say much about it!
Post # 16
Had to weigh in here. I work at two different hospitals, and at both of them, the nurses and doctors usually count to ten while mom is pushing. It does seem a little annoying, but it seems like when women have been pushing for a couple of hours, some encouragement really helps. In my experience (as a witness, not a patient) it also helps create the “climax” moment when baby finally comes out and everyone cheers. It kind of makes for a festive atmosphere. One other benefit of the counting is that it makes the pushing finite, and gives you an end time for this particular push. And to be honest with you, a lot of women are just not “good pushers” for lack of a better term. They either don’t know what to do, don’t think they have to try very hard or don’t want to, or are just really tired after laboring for hours or days. So some people need some nudging and/or instruction. I think by this stage of labor, many women appreciate any positive words. Just my experiences. I never cheer, By The Way 🙂