Post # 17
I’d love to make it sweetheart- and there is a TON of beading- so I’m not sure that I can add anything really to it- without looking out of place. The thing that I HATE is the “belly button beading” It just looks like a butterfly (TO ME)- and I hate butterflies on clothing.
Post # 18
It’s a tough call. I understand why you are struggling with what to do. I may not be the voice of reason here but remember that you will always have your wedding pictures that you will look back at and I would hate for you to look at the pictures or your video and feel “blah” about your dress. I know at the end of the day the dress doesn’t matter in regards to your marriage, but I do think if it’s important to you then it’s worth having a new dress. Your mom should understand if you don’t feel fantastic in that dress and you want something less traditional and more modern. Plus size styles have come a long way in 4 years. If it were me, I’d be getting a new dress. Not that I think there is anything wrong with yours, but I get why you don’t love it and would be curious to see if you can find something better.
Post # 19
Have you looked into selling your dress? Maybe go dress shopping with a friend just to get a feel for the other styles out there and if you don’t find anything that you like more than you already have a dress. You have nothing to lose. If you find something you LOVE, try selling your dress.
Post # 20
I totally hear where you’re coming from. To make my long story a little shorter, I kind of got talked into a silhouette/style that wasn’t truly in my heart. Like on paper the dress should’ve been amazing, but in my heart I knew I had wanted something different. No matter how many times people fawned over the dress I got, there was still something that didn’t quite connect in my heart. In the end, I wore that dress, and it did turn our wonderfully. Would the vision in my heart have made me happy? Probably. But in the end, everything turns out the way it’s supposed to, and I’m happy with the results. So there’s a part of me that wants to say, run with your heart and all that SYTTD junk.. but on the other hand, the emotions tied into the dress (your mom being proud of her having bought it for you) and the reality of finances and you being considerate of the people that want to make your dreams come true but have realisitic limitations.. it kind of outweights that SYTTD moment where a dress becomes bigger than life and the only thing that matters to a person is a piece of fabric. You always have the option of selling the dress and being financially smart about changing your dress, but there’s a lot of factors to weigh. Also, once I saw myself in my veil, makeup, jewelry, proper undergarments (VERY IMPORTANT!) it was like, whoa, game changer! Plus, definitely look into altering parts you dislike if you choose to go with this dress. I would suggest, and I don’t want to knock your friend, who I’m sure is a fantastic seamstress, but I take my clothes to two women who are amazing, but for bridal I would only trust women who work exclusively in bridal shops and with gowns, because with beading and all the other intricate construction issues in a wedding gown, you don’t want to mess that sucker I hope!! I hope I helped a little and didn’t just make things more confusing at all!
Post # 21
Thanks! My friend is ONLY working on the hem- which she has done many many times. I won’t have her touch the beading/ structural pieces. I considered selling my dress last summer- and then i steared away from it for whatever reason…. I’m afraid at this point I’m out of time. My dress can be bought now in the store for around 400- so I’d have to sell it for significantly less than that— and then just waiting for someone to buy it (i’ve not researched how long it takes…. but) I’m 4 mos away and I’m afraid my time frame for that has kind of already come and gone.
I really think that I’m going to just wear my dress….. I’ve considered adding a cathedral length veil and that might make me happier. In the reality of our wedding… I’m going to wear this thing a max of 5 hours… and that’s probably being very generous. It’s just not worth busting our budget…. There are just so many other long term things (house, furniture, etc) I’d prefer to put our money to.
I never went in to try on dresses this weekend…. The Flu bug hit our house…. ugh.
Post # 22
I think this is the problem with shows like “Say Yes to the Dress”
I too want the OMG IT”S PERFECT! moment, however that is not my personality, I never react like that in any situation so I doubt it will happen with my dress.
Are you similar to me? Or do you regularly flip out (in a positive way) about things?
Post # 23
Yesterday I got my dress back from the seamstress. IDK what it was, but once I got it all on- and everything fit the way it was supposed to be….. My hair was up (not wedding “up”…. but just up to get the idea) and I LOVED everything once it was put together. WOOHOO
Post # 24
Yay! *squeal* Dress moment!