Post # 1
I am sorry to be such a downer first thing Monday morning, but my mom called me yesterday to tell me that my parents have decided it is time to put my pug to sleep. He would be 15 and a half on December 29th, so he has lived a very long time. He has a lot of difficulty standing/walking, is incontinent, lost so much weight even though he eats his usual amount, and no longer recognizes any of us. He also cries a lot lately, it’s like a whimpering/howling noise that is terrible to hear.
I know my parents are right because I don’t think that my dog is happy or healthy anymore. He lived a long life and I hope he feels like we loved him and gave him everything he could want. However it is still really difficult…we have had him since I was nine, for the majority of my life, and he really was always my little baby.
Tomorrow I am going to take him to the vet with my parents. I was wondering if any bees have any advice, like any thing I could do to make things easier for him (or myself). This is the first time I’ve been through this, so any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much ladies!!!
Post # 3
When I put my cat down in the sixth grade, it was so very hard. However, once I saw my cat, I knew he needed to go. He was in absolute misery. He loved me so much over the years and I knew the best way I could love him was to put him to sleep. I’ve put down two other animals since then and it’s never easy, but I try to tell myself that it’s the best thing for them and the last way I can show them how much I love them by letting them go and not being selfish by keeping them with me. Also, I love this poem. I’ve printed it for many of my friends and family when they’ve lost an animal. It’s called “Rainbow Bridge.” I’m so sorry that you’re going through this.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….
Post # 4
Awww sweetie I’m so sorry. I don’t have a lot of words to offer for advice, my mom told me after both the cats had been put down. I don’t know how I’d face it for my own. Take as much time as you need with him, give him lots of love and attention just like you have over the years. It sounds like he’s not in a comfortable state anymore, you’re doing what’s best for him.
Big big (((((((hugs))))))))), this isn’t easy.
Post # 5
You could see if the vet does house calls for euthanasia. That’s what we did for both our cats and I thought it was much easier on all of us, compared to taking my dog to the vet many years ago. The kitties were home and therefore less stressed, and we were able to cry without having to face strangers at the vet’s office.
Not all vets will do this, and some apparently charge a bit extra for it, but IMO it was totally and completely worth it.
I’m really sorry that you are going through this.
Post # 6
I’m really sorry. About 5 years ago, we had to put our family golden retriever to sleep. He had cancer, and it eventually got to the point where he was so sick, he could barely move. I didn’t go to the vet’s office with my parents; it was too painful.
I was sad for a long time. It took me about a year to not cry/tear up when I tried to talk about him. My advice would be to take time to mourn your loss and be comforted in knowing he will be at peace. *hugs* to you!
Post # 7
I am so sorry 🙁 Putting a pet down is an extremely difficult decision, but your right in saying it is for the best. I know I had a friend who let their dog eat a people dinner with them before he had to go. The dog really enjoyed it. You could maybe bring a blanket or a toy with you to the vet to make him more comfortable too. And for you, it will be really hard, but the aftermath will get easier knowing he is not hurting anymore.
Post # 8
I’m so sorry, I don’t have any advice but please take care.
Post # 9
Thank you so much everyone! I am so grateful for the advice and the condolences. It is really hard, and it is reassuring to hear that others have made this difficult decision because it was the best for their pet. I passed that along to my mom, who is really struggling, and so she is also grateful to wedding bee! She fed him some prime rib last night…he always LOVED to eat and used to be a very fat and handsome pug in his younger years…now he still just as handsome but much skinnier.
I am comforted by the fact that he is so disoriented he no longer gets anxious or upset when he has to go to the vet, so at least he won’t be freaking out like he used to do when he knew where he was going. In a twisted way at least his current mental state will benefit him in this small way.
Thank you so much everyone…this really is such a wonderful and supportive community and I’m so glad to have found it!
Post # 10
@TheFutureMcBride: that is a beautiful poem. It’s comforting to think about him being somewhere he can run around like he used to and lay out in the sun relaxing… he used to love doing that. Thank you for sharing that, I really appreciate it.
Post # 11
I am so sorry for your loss.
We had to say goodbye to our 18yr old bassetXlab this year, 🙁 I know how awful it is to lose a family memeber, please take care.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry. I had to put down my (healthy physically but not mentally) dog this spring and it was awful since to look at him there was nothing wrong. It’s a lot easier, for me at least, when they look like it’s their time.
On the practical side, take a blanket with you as there will likely be a little bit of a mess afterwards. Also, if he twitches a little bit afterwards don’t let it worry you. He’s gone but there is still enough energy in the nerves to fire a muscle or two. Oh, and bring tissues too.
On the other side, just love on him and you’ll be giving him everything he needs. You’re doing the right thing. Good luck.
Post # 13
So sorry to hear this. This post makes me tear up (i’m at work and am trying not to cry). I can’t even explain how much I love animals. Somtimes I think I love them more than people lol. Growing up we always had lots of cats and dogs. Many have had to be put to sleep because of their age and declining health. It never gets easier. I still cry everytime and I’m almost 27 years old. My parents still cry everytime, too. What can I say – we truly love our animals. Animals become such a big part of our lives that you can’t help but feel horrible for doing it to them, but honestly, if they could talk, they would probably ask you to do it. They get embarassed when they potty on themselves, but they can’t help it. Just like a human, they don’t want to live like that anymore. Like you said, your pug has had a great, long life. Sorry for the long post. *hugs*
Post # 14
I’m sorry to hear about your dog. I understand exactly what you are going through and the decision is never an easy one to make. The good news is it sounds like you have support and others around you that will be feeling the same feelings that you are feeling. That always helps, even if only a little. The Rainbow Bridge poem is always one that helps me get through it a little easier, knowing that hopefully, I will see my beloved pets again some day.
My advice is to be there with him until the end. Being there with him in his final minutes is also very important. No matter how hard it is for you, it’s even harder for him and knowing you are there will comfort him, even if you think he doesn’t recognize you, he will know you are there by a touch or a kiss.
I hope everything is ok and again, I’m so sorry. ::hugs to you::
Post # 15
@jbird: Glad it could help.
Post # 16
I am so sorry for you and your sweet dog. 🙁 We had to put the family dog down at about the same age as yours (she was just shy of her 16th birthday), and it was the hardest decision to make. You know intellectually it is time, and it is humane, but letting go is gut-wrenching. Our girl (border collie) was also underweight, getting incontinent, and had what the vet called “doggie alzheimer’s.”
Have something snuggly that smells like home–a blanket, toy or article of your/your mom’s clothing. Even if the dog doesn’t recognize you, they will probably be comforted by a familiar smell.
If you choose to cremate, you can bring some of the ashes home with you and make a small memorial. We have a plaque with her name and dates on it, placed in her favorite spot in the backyard. She’s always with us, and sometimes the new dog (adopted after Bonnie passed) stops to sniff it as if she knows someone special is there. 🙂