(Closed) Putting career on hold to have children

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
2153 posts
Buzzing bee

Can you do something in that time to keep up on your skills?  Even a day or two a month.

It will absolutely affect your ability to find a job without recent work experience.  It would be different if you were someone with 10 years experience, and then took off and came back.  But someone who just barely had learned the job before they took off several years, will struggle.

But that’s not to say it cannot be done, but it won’t be easy, and you will probably start over again as though you were a new grad.  And don’t let that stop you from doing what you want, but do so with the knowledge of the struggle.

Post # 3
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes it will of course effect your career. Any gap in employment will regardless of the reason and even Moreso when you area just starting out in your career. Id at least work part time in the early years to make entry back into your career easier.

Post # 5
2274 posts
Buzzing bee

It is also SUCH a good idea to get as much schooling as possible FINISHED before children! 

Post # 6
17 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have done this (seven years in) and I admit I am very nervous about entering the workforce in a professional setting again. I agree that it is best to get as much schooling done before having children and I’m tremendoulsy happy that I did that.  Id suggest trying to work as many hours as you feel your budget/circumstances can handle while you have your first child. It was after we had our second and third child that the costs of daycare and hours/commute became so much more prohibitive for me to work outside the home. Thankfully we do okay on my husbands income and I do plan on returning to work when my kids are in school. Kindergarten here is only half day so I probaly still have a few years left (my youngest just turned two).

My career was in the Land Planning/ Landscape Architecture field and I worked for a company for four years there. I was torn about leaving when we adopted our oldest child. But I had a 50 minute commute each ways, and worked in an extremely expensive ski town (where the winter storms were often unpredictable and would make my commute horrible). I usually left work at 8:30am and didn’t get home until 7pm most days. Usually 2-3 times a year I’d have huge projects at work where I would pull overnighters to get them out on time. While this kind of schedule worked while we didn’t have kids, I couldn’t imagine not getting home at 7pm everynight and putting our baby to bed by 8-9pm and being happy with that. There aren’t a lot of companies in my field of work in our city (maybe 4-6 companies in a large metropoltain area) so I was very aprehensive of trying to switch companies to make my commute easier. I made a half effort to find a daycare situation after she was born but the first few situations I looked at in person were shady at best and I chickened out. Now that we have three young kids I feel like I’m definately at a stand still career wise until I get the youngest two in school full time. I will be around age 38 or so when that happens, which is still pretty young I feel. But I’ve lost a lot of skills I used to have and will probably have to take more courses when I want to return because being fluent at Autocad was a huge part of my career, and I’m honestly embaressed at how rusty I’ve become when your not on there for hours a day, everyday, not to mention that I’ll be 10 years behind software wise. I do look back and kind of wish I would have just been a working mom while we had our first and then took a break once we had two kids. Good luck with your decisions!


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