(Closed) Putting down our engagement?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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365 posts
Helper bee

They were probably just being thoughtless.  Did you say “hey, we got engaged last Christmas!”?  She may also have told him that so he didn’t propose on the same day your Fiance did (the previous year though of course).

Also, some people do think that it’s tacky, but don’t let that take the wind out of your sails πŸ™‚  I’m sure yours was special and everyone was happy for you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Personally, I would have said ‘Oh wow, thanks so much guys!’ in a jokey but sarcastic manner to remind them to keep their comments light in front of me.  They are entitled to their own feelings about that kind of thing and I wouldn’t have been offended, per se, just kind of surprised at their lack of tact.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with the girl and the mother, but no I would not say that in front of someone who got engaged on a holiday.  One of my good friends got engaged on Christmas too but I would never say that its not a good time to get engaged, and for lots of people it is a good time so there is no point in saying anything.

However, in this situation it dosn’t seem as they were thinking of you but themselves and its what she was thinking not necessarily thinking about you at all, but about herself, its what she wanted (not to be proposed to at Christmas) If she hasn’t been mean to you in other ways than I wouldn’t worry about it.

But next time you should say “I think its an excellet time to get engaged.” or something like that.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

did you see the poll?! most engagments happen in november and december. I personally think its sweet to get engaged on a holiday – you will both remember that day forever and it makes that holiday extra special! i didnt get engaged on a holiday, just a normal weekend in july but it was still special – christmas engagements are so exciting! what better gift to give the one you love but the promise of forever and a beautiful ring πŸ˜‰ dont let them bother you too much, everyone has their own opinion. while i understand her theory i find it kind of selfish of her to tell her family and fi that he better not propose on a holiday – how ungrateful.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I can see how your feelings could be hurt, but some people don’t want a proposal to happen on a holiday or maybe she thought that was your day.

My Fiance proposed on Thanksgiving Day, not because it was a holiday but because my immediate family was present and he wanted to make sure everyone was there. Girl I brag about my “holiday” proposal every time someone asks me how Fiance did it. Own your proposal and date, say I loved EVERYTHING about my proposal it was unforgettable I will never forget that Christmas day.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That is pretty thoughtless of them to say. 

I was just thinking to myself how wonderful it must be to get engaged over Christmas because then you get to see your family and share the good news with many people in person, plus you have time off to get all excited and share the news instead of going back to work the next day. 

You go girl. And you are right about what you said.

Post # 12
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

It sounds like they just weren’t thinking when they said that. I can understand how it might offend you a little, but try not to let it get to you. You loved your engagement and that is all that matters!

Post # 13
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852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would remind them that it happened to you, and I would say something along the lines of “and I really enjoyed it and thought it was special b/c the whole family was there to share it with us…” and remind them why it was important to you. She probably doesn’t prefer it b/c she wants a different experience in general, so she might feel like by discussing out loud, she’s re-iterating that she doesn’t want that experience.

To be honest, I would have preferred that my family be there for my proposal, so I’m kinda jealous of all those Christmas proposals πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I think they were being thoughtless.  Try not to let their insensitivity get to you.  Be proud of your engagement and knowing that you’ll soon be marrying your true love!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah I was engaged Dec 17th of last year – kind of a holiday proposal – but I’ve had a few friends get engaged since and to be honest, while I know and love that they’re engaged, I don’t remember at all when it happened for them! Maybe they just forgot or weren’t thinking about your date, just throwing out opinions for her own.

So glad you’re feeling better about it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I can definitely see how you would be a little upset…I also told my Fiance that x-mas, x-mas eve, new years eve, new years day, and valentines day were also out for me because I felt they were cliche…but I know others don’t feel that way, so I would never make that comment because I know not everyone thinks the way I do.  My Fiance wanted a day he could remember, so he picked…the fourth of july…and I thought it was sweet.  So I was proposed to on a holiday anyway…and I LOVED IT!

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