Post # 1
possibly tuesday. As in tomorrow, tuesday.
Our family lab is 12+ years old, ancient, I know! I feel very blessed for her to have had such an amazing and long-relatively problem-free life. Still, it’s never easy. 🙁 I had to put my other dog down 6 years ago due to cancer so I’ve been here before. It always tears me up inside! I was hoping our lab would die in her sleep (who doesn’t wish that?) but not so. This year she’s gone downhill very fast and it’s clear if we keep her alive it’s for us-not her. She has gone from having arthritis to having major mobility issues, the doctor thinks she has no control over her bowels as well as her legs. Most of the time they give out on her and she’s gotten hurt by this because she can’t control it. 🙁 It really breaks my heart. Also- the vet is thinking she’s starting kidney failure. She’s obviously in pain but doesn’t complain as she’s a trooper. I’m really holding onto the hope that she’ll be out of pain, happy and her younger lively self after she is put down peacefully.
🙁 it sucks. I don’t even know what to say but is there anything you guys suggest as a way to cope- knowing it’s the right thing to do?
Post # 3
I am so sorry, that is a horrible decision to have to make. ((HUGS))
Post # 4
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’ve been there, twice. It is never easy. My dogs are my life as I don’t plan on having children. They are family.
I want to tell you that yes, given what you said, you are doing the right thing. Not able to go potty on his own, the turn his health has taken. You are giving your pup dignity to cross over to the rainbow bridge peacefully.
As for coping, I found taking solace in the life I had with my pups, thinking of the good times. The things that made me laugh, brought me joy. The love and bond we shared. Give yourself time to cry and grieve.
I wish you peace during this difficut time. *hugs*
Post # 5
Im sorry… this is always a tough situation.
Post # 6
I’m sorry you have to go through this. We have an 11 year old dog that I dread having to make the same decision for one day. It sounds like you know what is best for your furbaby, good luck making that tough call.
Post # 7
Awww hun I’m so sorry 🙁 I have definitely been through this. There comes a point when you look into your beloved pet’s eyes and you just know they’re ready, and at that point, it doesn’t matter if you are or not. The most humane thing we can do for our pets is to love them to pieces while we have them, and to be their advocate about everything, including when it’s time to end the suffering. It’s hard, it’s sad, it sucks, but it is our JOB as their loving owners to make sure they don’t endure anything more than they need to. I’m so, so sorry you have to say goodbye, it’s never easy, but know that you did your best, and you loved that wonderful fluffy pet the best you could as long as they would let you.
Also, Rainbow Bridge is comforting, but I cry every time I read it. Big hugs lady, hang in there!!
Post # 8
Oh God 🙁 I was tearing up before I even opened this thread. Can you do it on Friday so you have the weekend to really grieve? This is painful- I’m really, really sorry. Twelve years is a long life, but we always want more.
Honestly, there is no way to cope or prepare. Our animals offer us so much- true, unconditional love and affection- there is no replacement for it.
When my previous dog Milo was sick with cancer, we did “Milo’s Bucket List.” We had about 5 weeks to do all the things he loved to do as much as possible. His last day included a blissful morning of going into Rite Aid (he always wanted to go in the stores with me), having one of those HUGE Hershey’s bars, several chicken breasts and one final off leash adventure.
I also made a shutterfly scrapbook that I still look at often, 4 years later.
Lots and lots of love to you. I’m totally crying now ;(
Post # 9
@DaneLady: omg- why did i read that? i’m sobbing at my desk 🙁
Post # 10
🙁 I am sorry! There is nothing like a dog that you love.
Post # 11
@mamadingdong: Sorry! It does make me tear up every.single.time! It’s comforting though, in some strange way, that our old pets are young and our injured pets are whole again. But oh gracious do I ugly cry when I think about having to let them go!
Post # 12
Thanks for all the love and support! I feel teary just reading these posts.
@DaneLady: I’ve read that before but it gets me every time! Beautiful. To people who think pets don’t go to heaven- psh. I don’t even want to consider a heaven without my babies!
@mamadingdong: I don’t think we can wait that long. :/ Maybe it’s for the best? I wish we could but God only knows how much worse she may get even by the weekend. She had actual good full days up til the past few weeks. Now- it’s more like good moments and they’re few and far between.
I totally understand, though! I still cry over my little dog we lost to cancer as well. It really helps to have another pet at home, I’ve found. Someone to force you to get up and take care of them and move on to appreciating their life with you as much as possible, even after a loss. 🙁
I’m glad to have confirmation that, yes, this is the right thing to do. As a huge animal advocate it’s hard to accept the fact that your pet’s life and death rests in your hands. Still struggling with that. Part of me feels it’s cruel that I’m making a decision for her she can’t make right now- but the other part fully agrees if she could talk she’d ask to be out of her pain. I know the look in their eyes when it’s time. Ready or not. 🙁 I heard that vets in the UK actually will visit your home to put them down- I really wish this was the case in America. My biggest worry is that the trip to the vets will upset her, although I know she’s probably too far gone to care. The horrible thing is that as long as she’s with us, she’s perfectly happy. Even now. Whew. Ok. I hate this. :/
Post # 13
@SimplyChic11: i’ve never had to put any pets down, i’m dreading the day i do ( i have 2 kitties) but just wanted to send hugs your way. sorry your going through this, its a tough but you already know its the right thing to do for your dog and like you said she won’t be hurting anymore. i dont know if your religious or spiritual but what helps me feel better when someone passes is knowing that just because they have passed from this life doesnt mean their spirit doesnt continue on to the next. law of physics tells us energy cant be destroyed or created, so even though your pup is not with you in a corporeal sense, she’s definitely not gone. hope that helps <3
Post # 14
@mamadingdong: +1 Crying here too. I need to stay away from this thread until I go home.
Post # 16
It is the kindest decision you can make for your pets! As their humans, after all the years of love they give us, we give them that final gift of letting them go peacefully and be out of pain. I have lost a few pets and each one hurts so much. Whenever I think of my two cats now and realize they won’t be around forever, it makes me cherish them that much more. What a sweet dog he must have been!