(Closed) Putting my self out there… Heartbroken

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so sorry, hugs! 🙁

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Oh geez, I’m so sorry. I can feel how hurt you are through your post and offer major virtual *hugs*

It may be that this was something which has been developing in his mind for a while, and it wasn’t until this past month that he came to accept it? I can’t imagine someone just suddenly waking up and saying “It’s over” after 7 years building a life with someone. Either way, it sucks and it’s not going to be easy for you – but you WILL get through this. It’s good that you have a strong support network around you right now, lean on them and they’ll help you through it.

Because this has been particularly traumatic for you, I would gently suggest you get counseling – at least a couple of sessions – to help sort things out. It might help you make some sense of it all, or at the very least figure out how to deal with the pain in a safe way.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

hugs no advice just some big HUGS

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m almost at a loss for what to say. I read this and almost started crying at my desk, it breaks my heart. I cannot even imagine. All I can say is I am SO sorry. You don’t deserve to go through all this 🙁

Sending hugs your way!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am so so sorry. I wish I could reach through the screen and hug you. I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but things will get better. You will be happy again and find love again. Be kind to yourself (( hugs ))

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am so sorry you’re hurting . . . (((hugs))) . . . all we can offer are words of comfort.  I can’t really tell exactly what happened between the two of you.  What do you think went wrong?  I’m sure you’ve been over and over this in your mind.  Since you have been together so long you are going to grieve immensely and there is no way around this kind of pain, only through it.  But, still, something about your story sounds as though there may still be hope.  I don’t want to give you false hope, but has he given you a better explanation than he’s not “in love” any more?  Did you ask him why?  I can tell by your post that you still love and care for this man very much.  Maybe try talking to him again . . . I am so sorry for your pain . . .

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I dont think I have any meaningful advice for you but you said “I’m trying to move on”, I want to tell you that you take the time you need to cry, bawl, punch pillows, get mad, grieve. Its ok to be a total mess, look what is happening in your life.

 

On one hand I want to tell you to talk to him again, see if he just made a rash decision. But on the other hand, I just want to hug you and say that someday it will be ok.

 

I’m sorry

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

so sorry to hear this! I can’t even imagine how hard this is for you. sending prayers!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What @jjah89 said.

 

*hug* 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@kim14410:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now, but it WILL get better!!  I met an ex of mine in sohpmore year (of college) and we dated for about 8 years – unofficially junior/senior year), then officallly for 6 years after that.   I ended it between us, and it was a very difficult decision.  We didnt live together, but we still had a routine, meeting after work, spending all weekend together. It’s really hard at first cause everythign is just so different from the regular routine, but once you break out of it and create a new routine and move toward accepting a new life, it starts to feel ok.  After a few years now, we’re actually friends again and chat once in a while and very happy with this new road our lives have taken us down.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah, I don’t have any advice either, just know that we are all thinking of you & praying for you to heal.  At least he had the courage to tell you how he was feeling instead of just going through the motions, getting married, and leaving you to wonder why he doesn’t love you anymore- he broke it off because he probably doesn’t want to put you through that.  Small consolation, I know, but you will get through this, and you will be stronger for it <3 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

my best friend is going through something similar and it just breaks my heart! 

so sorry to hear this 🙁 *hug*

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