(Closed) Putting on a happy face!

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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5107 posts
Bee Keeper

@macmint83:  I am so sorry about your fertility struggles… There are LOTS of us ladies who are upset by friend/family/corworkers announcing their pregnancy, especially when we know that they have been trying for less than we have. If I were you, I would join the 1 year+ thread. Those ladies are the most amazing, inspirational ladies on the planet!!!! They can offer you lots of support. <3333 Welcome to the Bee!!!!

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/1-year-ttc-thread-pt-2

Post # 4
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1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@macmint83:  As ChuckNorris said, you’re not alone.  And, personally, I think that “just relax!” is THE absolutely most frustrating thing for people to say to someone TTC.  I also think it’s totally natural to feel a little bit sad when other people get pregnant.  I try to just remind myself that their getting pregnant has no bearing on my own ability to get pregnant…but it can still be sad! 

Post # 5
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1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@macmint83:  I hear ya, lady! We’ve been TTC for a 1 1/2 years now so I know exactly where you’re coming from.  It’s not an easy road and I can’t believe how much long-time TTC has affected me.  It’s shaken me to my very core.  I used to be eternally optimistic and pretty much had a smile on my face 24/7.  These days….not so much. I’m struggling with borderline depression (self diagnosed) and being sad and crying is a very normal part of my week.

I’ve had no less than 5 coworkers get pregnant since we started trying.  Some of them already have babies that are 9 months old–the same with a lot of friends and even family.  🙁 That’s the hardest part.  I know there’s not a limited baby supply, but it makes it hard to see others have what you’re aching for deep down inside.

Attitude has a lot to do with it, though, and I’m really, really, really trying to be a happier person.  What I’m doing currently is trying to count my blessings and be grateful for all the awesome things I do have right now:  the bestest husband ever–a man who has been there to hug me, cry with me, and hold my hand on this bumpy ride, a man who wants to be a Daddy with all his heart; good family that loves us; a great house; a crazy good job; regular cycles (my heart goes out to those with wonky cycles); and the most awesome WB ladies on the 1 Year + thread.

Those who are telling you to “relax” have undoubtedly never experienced infertility or they wouldn’t dare let those words escape their mouth.  I have a great friend who also went through infertility and ended up adopting. She’s been my lifeline.  Never ONCE has she said anything that I don’t want to hear.  She just “gets” it, like no one else in my life can.  If you can find someone like that to talk to, it might really help to have an outlet.

And of course, come join us on the 1 Year + TTC thread!  You can count on us for hugs, celebrating little successes, and being there when you need a shoulder to cry on. 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@MrsFarmer:  Wow, I hope if I ever struggle TTC I have half the grace you have.  

Post # 7
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1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@sailor:  THANK YOU!  You have no idea how much that means to me.  I don’t feel graceful or patient most of the time, but I’ll just “fake it till I make it” (words of wisdom from my younger brother.) 😉

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am so sorry. I totally know how you feel. My thoughts are with you for a BFP soon!!!

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