Post # 1
I didn’t even know this is considered innapropriate until I saw another post on here. Actually I have never even seen a wedding invitation that didn’t have a card for the registry included. Why is this a problem? To me it seems far easier, as all the guests know about it without having to make a million calls to find out by word of mouth, especially if they live a long ways away. I know that if my fiance and I hadn’t inclued them many people would not have asked and we would end up with a mountain of towels or 20 toasters.
Post # 3
My brother and his wife included registry cards in their invitations. I wasn’t in tune with wedding etiquette, so I didn’t see a problem with it. For out of town guests (which were plentiful, as they live in San Diego, CA and my brother and my family mostly lives in New York) it’s actually rather conventient. Though convention says it’s a faux pas, I don’t konw anyone who thought it was rude! I’d say go for it, unless your family or your FI’s are old money…. they’d be more likely to find it “rude” or inapporopriate. For most people, it’s convenient!
Post # 4
I think it really depends on how concerned with etiquette your circle is. My mom thought I was crazy for not including registry cards lol. The main reason it’s concerned rude is that it’s never proper to ask for or expect gifts. So even though you know they will get you a gift, you shouldn’t mention it in the invitation. Instead, the guests can ask someone close to the family, like MOB or MOG, where you are registered. There are also a few stores that are very typical for wedding registries, so guests can easily inquire to see if you are registered.
Post # 5
I think it really depends on your social circle. Like you, I have never gotten an invitation that DIDN’T have registry information in it, but to some people it seems like a huge deal if you do. I included it in my invitations because that’s what all my friends and family are used to.
Post # 6
Okay that makes sense! I guess the people I know aren’t quite as classy as some others!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
I don’t like it when I receive an invitation without registry information. Makes it much more difficult for me to figure out when the bride & groom are registered. I think you are doing your guests a favor by including it.
Post # 8
I think you usually include registry in bridal shower invites. But it would seem like you are asking for gifts if you were to send a bridal shower invite to out of town guests, so I guess it’s a no win situation lol. I may just send it with my STD to my out of town guests but it still seem to early to send out registries six months in advance!
Post # 9
I agree. I sent my invites with the card because there are a small number of people who actually know each other apart from knowing myself and SO. They wouldn’t know who my Maid/Matron of Honor was or the Bridesmaid or Best Man. We went to a wedding in September where the grooms didn’t tell anyone where they registered, my SO was Bridesmaid or Best Man and we didn’t even know! We gave them cash but apparently they were registered at Williams Sonoma..
Post # 10
we included registry cards for our guests who don’t use internet. those who do use internet, got a card with our website on it.
it’s pretty common where i’m from to include registry info. as long as you’re not asking for money, no one think it’s tacky or rude.
Post # 11
Greatly depends on the social norms with your guest list. Some areas it would be one of the worse things ever to include it, other’s people get annoyed when it isn’t included. If most invitations you have gotten have them, you should be fine.
Post # 12
Honestly, I put them in some. I knew some people wouldn’t mind and would appreciate them, but in others (mostly the future in-laws and people I wanted to impress or be respectful to) I just added an insert card with our wedding website instead.
Post # 13
It depends on the people. DH’s family would consider it a big no-no because they’re wealthy and believe in not mentioning gifts but they still found our registry and bought off of it. People in my family wouldn’t care.