Post # 1
I have a dilemma! Long story short, life circumstances happened, and I didn’t get my postcard Save the Dates ordered until the end of May, and I’m getting married August 17th. I figured this would be fine, so I placed the STDs as a rushed order while the invites would be a two week wait. I would have time to mail the STDs and then wait to mail the wedding invites at the end of the month.
However, not only did they all arrive together in the mail the other day, but stupid me put July 17th as the RSVP deadline! So if I stagger the invite like my original plan (mail STDs this week, mail invites at the end of the month), then the guests will have like 2 weeks to reply.
Part of me thinks it would just make the most sense to package them with the invitation, especially since it would be silly to waste the money on postage, plus the invitation as it stands consists only of the outer envelope, flat invitation, and RSVP postcard. It would add a little more substance to the package, so to speak. But is this tacky?
I understand that at this point, it probably seems pointless to even have STDs, but I don’t want to leave them out since my fiance designed them and they are a photo collage of us.
Is it less tacky to mail the STDs like a week in advance or to mail add them in the wedding invitation?
Post # 3
Honestly I wouldn’t even bother sending the STDs out at this point, but of you absoloutely must send them out I would send them now, and then send the invitations at the end of the month.
Post # 4
I wouldnt even send them at all
Post # 5
Dont bother sending them. Otherwise send them separately
Post # 6
What a bummer! I probably would scrap the STDs. If I was dead set on sending them I’d just put them in with the invites…no point doubling the postage costs and maybe folks will just think it’s a fun thing to put up on the fridge. Most of our guests thought the STD was the invite anyway lol.
Post # 8
The only reason I’d say send them is because you have them and you’ve paid for them. But you really don’t need them.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t bother sending them either.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Unfortunately, I would definitely not even send the STD. The point of them is to tell guests months ahead of time to Save the Date so they can make travel and work arrangements so it’d be pointless now.
Post # 11
You should add a ‘don’t send them at all’ option to the poll. That’s what I would vote for. i think as a guest it would be confusing to receive one right after the other, and even more confusing to receive thm together.
Post # 12
Well the STDs are kind of pointless right now. Usually they go out like 6-9 months before the wedding to give guests a heads up. Personally, since you already bought them, I’d send the STDs out now and then the invites a few weeks later.
Post # 13
If your save the dates have a nice picture of you two I would suggest sending them with the invitation just so people could have the picture….and it’s easier to afix to the refrigerator with a magnet as a cute reminder. I say send them with the invite.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t send them at all. If you do don’t put them in with thr invites, that just makes no sense.
Post # 15
I agree with other posters, do not send save the dates. I know it seems like such a waste to not send them, but it really does defeat the purpose to send them this late.
Post # 16
I wouldnt bother sending them.