Post # 1
Please cheer me up with your happy stories about putting TTC on hold!
Darling Husband and I started trying this summer and got pregnant pretty quickly. Sadly we had a missed miscarriage and D&E at 8 weeks. Then it took nearly 2 months for my hormones to level out. In that time my mother died and our teen has been giving us some trouble.
Also I will be switching jobs in late Spring/early Summer This lined up well when I was due in April as I can stay at my current role until Im ready to leave. However now Id be very pregnant and interviewing OR delaying the job change (and a significant pay increase) for probably 4-6 months.
We decided it’d be better to wait until I know if I am going to stay with my current company or not so we can ensure I have FMLA protection. Sadly we wont know that until early summer probably and if I do make a move we will have to wait several months before we try. Also at this point it seems worthwhile to secure the bigger paycheck first.
I suggested waiting because it is rationally the right choice. But its also hard to wait when we had already been trying. Especially after the miscarriage I was really anxious to get pregnant again. I am excited to be in a better/less stressful place when we TTC again!
Post # 2
We started NTNP in May with the knowing acceptance that come October if it hadn’t happened we would have to be careful and then TTC next September as we have 2 v important events in July / August that I would miss should I fall pregnant in the next few months.
When we made this decision I was super relaxed about it, and tbh I kinda assumed even though NTNP we’d fall pregnant. Well of course we didn’t and now I am a little sad that I have to wait until then.
I just keep thinking of the exiting things we have going on next year and how much of a better place we will be come to time to TTC ! So just keep clinging to those thoughts and keep your mind occupied!
So sorry for to hear about your mom xoxo
Post # 3
jemmlove12 : Thank you! Yes, being in a better place is a big motivator. We’ve had a lot of stress and the next 6-12 months have a lot of big changes coming. It will be nice to not be pregnant/with a newborn during that. Not that life is ever “easy” but I do feel we will be able to enjoy it so much more when we get passed some of this temporary stress.
Ugh, sorry you have to wait. Its so hard when you really want something. Im glad you have good things going to help distract a bit. Hopefully you guys will really be able to enjoy it when the times comes 🙂