Post # 1
My fiance and I think we want to register for a honeymoon as well as at a store for our more traditional guests. Like many other couples, we are both older and have been living together for a while and don’t really need much (nor do we have space for it).
So I have two questions:
1) I was looking at Honeyfund as a potential for our honeymoon registry. Did you register for a honeymoon? If so, what was your experience? Did you receive enough through the fund to significantly help your honeymoon savings?
2) We have a lot of younger guests and lots of people who are internet/computer savvy so I think the Honeyfund would be a popular choice for us, but I’m not really sure how it works. Does it just send us cash payments via PayPal?
Should we go ahead and book our hotels and flights for our honeymoon and then transfer all of the Honeyfund money into our bank accounts to cover the costs? For instance, let’s say we put the big purcahses on a credit card, started to pay it off on our own and then closer to the wedding we use the Honeyfund gifts to cover what is left?
I guess I’m just curious as to HOW you used your wedding registry money and applied it towards your honeymoon.
Post # 3
So, you can search the boards there are a lot of threads about how Honeymoon funds have worked out for people. I think the consensus is that you still get cash gifts at the wedding and that it doesn’t cover everything for your honeymoon.
As far as what happens, you can set your Honeyfund up one of two ways. The first is that the guest just chooses an amount of money to gift and sends it via PayPal. Personally, I did not choose this because, it’s probably eaiser for the guest to write a check and bring it to the wedding so that they don’t have to pay PayPal fees. Also, it doesn’t feel like a registry to me. The second option is to set up a list of items each with a price attached to them such as, “One Night Hotel Stay $200 Qt. Requested 5.” Which seems more like people are giving items or events. I personally feel that if someone purchase item X, then you should spend the money on item X because that is what they intended it for.
With either option you would need to arrange where you are going to stay and plane tickets and anything else that needs reservations prior to your wedding and honeymoon.
Post # 4
I might hesitate to use a honeymoon registry.
If you use one that creates excursions or lets you get couples massages or something like that – for the most part the company deducts a fee and then cuts you a check. Guest thinks you’re getting the full $100 worth of the gift, you really get $92.50 or something like that.
– I believe even paypal and other sites like that deduct a fee. I’d much rather give someone a check than have some internet site take out a service fee, so as one of your guests, and a relatively internet-savvy one at that, I’d still opt out of the honeymoon/money registry.
People will give you money. Believe me. You will be gifted significant checks. Plan the honeymoon you want and you can use the wedding gifts to suppliment it if you choose.
Post # 5
Just an FYI that it was my friends that gave gifts off the registry and family that largely gave checks (we did not have a honeyfund). I would not assume younger, more technologically savy folks necessarily want to give (effectively) cash. I suspect that is because it may be more uncomfortable for peers to give cash in an obvious manner.
I also would suggest that you not rely on gifts prior to the wedding to pay for things due prior to the wedding. While we received 1-2 gifts immediately after sending out invitations, we erceived the bulk of the gifts within 2-3 weeks before to 1 week after the wedding (and much of that concentrated at the wedding).
ETA: I dislike the funds because they charge a fee. When one friends had a honeyfund, I gave them a check (per their very obvious wishes, even though I wasn’t a fan), which I gave at the wedding in a card.
Post # 6
Not all of these sites charge a fee. STA travel doesn’t (do you have that in the US?)…so do your research and I’m sure you’ll find something suitable 🙂
Post # 7
We used honeyfund and got $1300.00 for our honeymoon! We loved it and our guests werent charged a fee for anything since we opted for the cash and check option only. No one had any complaints and all of our excursions and such were paid for using our registry! Use it- you wont regret it!!
Post # 8
I am using honeyfund right now and the thing I like about it is that they DON’T charge a fee. You can select having paypal as a pmt option (which I choose to give my guest an option of paying online) but that does come with a small fee. However, your guest is NOT the one being charged the fee. You are. So if your guests selects 25.00 they are not paying you 26.50. You are loosing 1.50. But I figure I can pick up the small difference and save my guest on the shipping fee like a traditional registry would have for ordering online. There is also an option for them to do cash or check as well. We did however pay for our plane tickets and hotel rooms ourselves. The money we recieve from our honeyfund is going to be used to make our honeymoon better than it ever could have been and we plan on sending pictures in our thank you cards of us doing exactly what that person gifted us for. So Aunt Norma will be getting a picture of us drinking wine since she gave us 25.00 for wine tasting. We still have 2 months till our wedding and arn’t expecting the registry to be used till much closer. But I wouldn’t gamble on having the whole thing covered just by doing this honeyfund. However, I like the site and its super easy to navigate and use.
Post # 9
@shirasagi: We are using Honeyfund. To answer your question, yes, it deposits the money in your Paypal account as soon as someone contributes to your Honeyfund.
As far as how you want to plan and pay for the honeymoon, that’s up to you. We booked our honeymoon on a 0% credit card that we have the capability (i.e., funds) to pay off at any time if we want. We have all of our Honeyfund money in a savings account, and after the wedding, we will apply those funds to our honeymoon balance, and then Fiance and I will pay off any remaining balance.
So far, I have had one bridal shower, and we received $1,000 in Honeyfund money. People absolutely loved it, and I was shocked at the number and amount of gifts from that. I have another shower in a few weeks and then obviously the wedding, so we’re curious to see how it turns out.
ETA: One other thing, we are tracking what each person bought us, and when we are doing that thing on the honeymoon, we will take a picture and include it in the thank you card to each person. That way, people feel like they actually were a part of the experience and have a gift attached to the funds.
Post # 10
We used Honeyfund and it was great. We actually ended up receiving enough gifts to cover about 70-80% of our honeymoon and then with just the additional cash gifts at the wedding it was more than enough to pay for our honeymoon. We set it up so people could pay through Paypal. When someone did Paypal took 3%. It was split between the number of people that payed through paypal and then the people that pledged for an item and gave cash or check. People like our registry and really liked seeing our pictures from the Honeymoon that they contributed towards (our island cruise, swimming with dolphins, dune buggies, etc.) As far as paying for the honeymoon, we actually paid for the entire thing up front and then put the money from the Honeyfund back into our savings account.
Post # 11
Wow guys thanks for all the feedback! This definitely sounds like the way to go for us. And as I said, we will have a traditional registry as well for the few things that we do need to give more traditional guests or those who feel uncomfortable with the Honeyfund a chance to get us something if they choose. I’m really surprised how many of you say that we will receive cash for our wedding. I was kind of assuming that we would not receive any cash gifts, as that is not what we are asking for necessarily.
Post # 12
We used honeymoonwishes.com and we love it, yes there is a fee and you can chose if you want to pay it or if you want your guest to pay it.
Post # 13
we used depositagift.com and loved it! you can register for non-honeymoon items too (like a home or furniture or date nites). it’s great. really awesome customer service too.