Post # 1
So I am 13 weeks pregnant and will be a Stay-At-Home Mom. Right now I’m finishing school and will be done in December, so I have things to keep me busy.
But I’ve always wondered this, what to SAHM’s do all day to stay busy with their kids? And I also am curious how many mom’s constantly play hands-on with their kids, and how many prefer them to play independently?
I have been a nanny for many, many years – so I was paid to play hands-on, but from other mom’s I’ve seen (and the ones I’ve worked for) is this normal?
How many of you SAHM’s have daily routines? Even for babies?
I’m just worried that I might get bored sometimes or run out of things to do with the kids. I’m also the type that doesn’t want to encourage much TV time (maybe half hour a day if even?!) or other technology, but some kids aren’t into reading or crafts or whatever.
Anyway just looking to see how other mom’s manage their households (apart from my experience as a nanny – those mom’s are ALWAYS different from the norm ;))
Post # 3
Oooooh, I would love to know this, too!
Post # 4
I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom to two little ones. here’s what I’ve learned:
children thrive on routine. We wake up, eat, nap, eat and go to bed at the same time every day. But it’s good to shake up the routine every now and then too!
In the morning, we eat and they watch a few cartoons while I have my coffee, read the news etc. Then I clean up breakfast, and do laundry. They usually run around my room while I’m putting clothes away. then it’s lunch time. They eat, play for half an hour then it’s nap time. Nap time is mommy’s free time. After naptime we go and run whatever errands we have and then come home and cook dinner.
I try and do something fun everyday, whether its play-do, blowing bubbles,baking cookies, playing in the backyard, coloring etc. I wouldn’t say it’s ever boring, kids make a damn mess, so there is ALWAYS something to do even if it’s cleaning.
Post # 5
we have a fairly flexible routine. we get up she watches gabba for a little bit while i make breakfast and get dressed. after she eats she goes and gets herself dressed and then we do our errands like grocery shopping. when we get home she helps my put them away and she cleans up the living room of her toys. when shes does that im making lunch. after lunch we relax on the couch and read books or color or flash cards, whatever she chooses. after that we go and lay down for a nap. after the nap we start getting stuff ready for dinner and doing laundry. when its time to cook dinner she goes and sits on the couch with daddy and watches tv with him. when dinner is done we sit down and eat then take a bath, read book or flash cards then go to bed. this is my perfect day but it dosent always happen like this.
she is a super big helper so she does a lot of housework and cooking with me. we usually take her flash cards with her to the store or running errands and she is always asking questions and i ask her questions. i dont really schedule or plan things during the day if i can help it because some days she dosent want to help or go to the store or whatever it is she dosent want that day. we try to play with other nighbor hood kids and have sprinkler day or other fun things. her favorite is going to the firestation and watching all the fire trucks goe in and out lol.
Post # 6
My baby’s only a month old, so life is pretty redundant with her. Still, I’m not bored at all, always seem to be busy. Usually I try to get her to nap in the morning so I can eat breakfast and do things around the house (laundry, wash bottles, etc.). Then she wakes up, I change her diaper and feed her. Either she’ll fall asleep again or stay up for a half hour or so and then fall asleep. Since she doesn’t love being put down on anything during the day (no bassinet, swing, bouncer, etc, she’ll only sleep in the bassinet at night), I have her in my arms during sleepy time and I’m pretty much stuck on the couch. But I’m exhausted, so I love having that time to relax!
My mom was a Stay-At-Home Mom and she was very hands on, so I’m hoping to be the same way. We were always doing something or going somewhere, like story hour at the library, swim lessons, etc. I also had 2 older siblings though so they kept me busy as a baby as well.
Post # 7
@artbee: I actually hope to be a baby-carrier, and carry my baby in a sling or baby bjorn type thing during the day, I’ve read a lot of good science on it, so I definitely see me doing that! However, I know that if you are able to put her in a sling, you might be able to do some other things. I know one mom who works from home, her baby sleeps in the sling while she works.
my mom was a Stay-At-Home Mom but I don’t remember much. I grew up with 5 siblings, so I was ALWAYS playing with one of them. I’m not planning on 6 kids (but then again, neither did she!), and for the first few they don’t have that opportunity yet anyway.
I do know I want a routine of some kind. I would like a library day once a week, allotted reading time, music time etc. I think it’s kinda crazy how much some mom’s pay for private preschool when I know I could teach the kids the same thing at home! haha So I know once my kids are older, I want to incorporate “learning time” and activities. But when they’re babies I think it will be tougher.
How do you moms handle one at preschool age that you want to be hands-on with, and a baby that needs your attention?
When I was a nanny, the older kids often got pushed to the way-side for the baby, and had to play by themself most of the time, I didn’t like that. I like indepedence, but they def. didn’t get as much attention.
Post # 8
I stay home with my 3 year old bonus son, except on Thursday’s. He is big on having a schedule. So we have a routine. He wakes up at 8am. He watches cartoons until about 9am. He’s not a morning person and doesn’t like to eat right away. At 9am we have breakfast. Then we usually run errands and stop at the park or go for a bike ride. He still naps everyday from 11:30 to 1:30. During that time I clean and do some work. Then we have lunch. Then we have an activity normally. Swim class, gymnastics, yoga, and we go to the gym everyday. My gym has a discovery area with a sitter. He loves that.