Post # 1
Just wondering if any of you bees have been to a Quaker wedding and what it was like. My fiance and I are eloping, but we are planning on having a party/ceremony a few months afterward with friends and family. He has been asking me if we can incorperate a quick Quaker wedding ceremony into the festivities, as he was raised among Friends 🙂 . I am an atheist, but I have always admired Quakerism for its stance on activism and social justice and its inclusive nature (at least that’s what it tends to be like in Massachusetts among liberal Quakers) and I have no problem with this in theory. However, I don’t have a great handle on how things usually go down (in true Quaker style, there don’t seem to be many official guidelines/rules), or indeed how much the God thing usually factors in. Any insight would be appreciated.
Post # 2
Bump! This confused atheist needs your help!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I’ve been to a Quaker church a few times, but my general understanding is that the variation in the different churches of Friends is really vast. There are Quaker churches that lean more toward traditional Christian ideas, and others that lean more toward the fully silent services of sharing thoughts, and others still that have a completely different set of beliefs. It’s extremely different depending on where you go, so I’m not sure if there really is a “standard” to Quaker weddings? It’s sort of “anything goes.” I know that’s not much help, but I thought I’d just toss out my own experience.
ETA: if your fiance is the one who wants the Quaker incorporation into your wedding, I would imagine he has some idea of what he wants/means?
Post # 4
Thanks for your reply! It does help 🙂
lol, you’d think that, wouldn’t you? But at the moment all he’s offered is, “I think you say your vows to each other in front of the group and then there’s silence and people might minister.” Aside from meetings, the only Quaker ceremonies he’s been to have been funerals. His parents are pretty devout Friends, but I’d rather not get their hopes up by asking them if in the end it’s something we don’t want to do.