Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have started shopping for rings and I am so confused! Going into this I thought that my highest priority was size, being that I wear a size 9.5 ring I was afraid anything smaller than 1 carat would look like .5 on my large fingers. Now I’m not so sure because I am torn between smaller (around .75) of better quality or getting a larger stone.
Anyone with larger fingers have photos they could show me to compare? Please help!
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
If you love the small one get it! Personally.. I think essentially you are trying to meet in between with size and quality. Would you want a brown stone thats huge or a tiny flawless diamond? Personally I would want a more flawed (but not dirty).. smaller (but not diamond dust) diamond.
Post # 4
@shelleymer: Have you looked at halo style rings? My ring is .75 but looks bigger because of the setting
Post # 5
I think quality is a lot more important, I see so many rings that are cloudy are dull looking and it’s really off-putting.
What I want is a CZ or something because it’s sparkly and clear like a higher end diamond but my cheap ass can live with the price (I know not everyone likes that alternative though.)
Post # 6
HMM I HEAR URE DILEMA BUT DONT HAVE RING TO SHOW U AS I’M STILL ‘WAITING’ BUT I HAVE TOLD MY bf THAT I DONT WANT A DIAMOND i’D PREFER A SAPHIRE OR EMERALD AS I HAVE LARGE AHNDS AND THINK ANY DIAMOND HE COULD AFFORD WOULD BE SWAMPED BY MY PAWS
Post # 7
I think quality is very important. If you go with a good cut of good clarity and color it will sparkle like crazy and appear bigger than a larger stone with poor cut, clarity, and color.
If the clarity is bad the diamond can appear cloudy or dirty all the time. If the color of bad the stone can appear yellow or brown. If the cut is bad, the sparkle just won’t be as good.
I second the recommendation for a halo setting as it will make the “solitaire” part of the ring cover more of your finger.
Post # 8
Mhm, have you tried some rings on? That I think is the easiest way for getting an image on how it would look on your finger. As for quality/quantity. Some one just wants a bigger rock for the looks, and quality is less emphasized. And wants a quality diamond but smaller one. You can get both if your lucky.. that is if you are rich. lol.
Post # 9
It really all depends on what is important to you. I think most would say the quality but still some would rather have a bigger stone.
I myself vote for quality.
I have a size 7 finger & a .20-.22 marquise solitaire & my wedding band is .25 & is a half eternity band:
& A Farther away view:
Post # 10
@shelleymer: I feel like many people say they would rather have a tiny perfect diamond than a big, included/yellow one. How about right down the middle? Go a little lower on color.. maybe H or I, and in clarity go for a SI1, or SI2. Do you have pictures??? Love pictures, especially on your finger!!! 🙂
Post # 11
@Fallicious1012: Just make sure if you go with an SI1 or SI2 stone you see it in person before buying. Those stones can have inclusions visible to the naked eye so you want to make sure that there isn’t a black spot in the stone that you don’t like.
Post # 12
@Fallicious1012: I agree, I went right down the middle. I ended up with a 1.2 carat, G color, SI2 diamond and it is perfect! I could have gotten 1 carat better quality, or a 1.4 carat dud (I could really see the inclusions and a drastic color difference). I did get to see the diamond beforehand, and there were no inclusions I could see to the visible eye. I compared the smaller diamonds to the 1.2 side by side, and I could definitely tell a size difference and they both seemed just as sparkly to me. Now that I wear it all the time, if I scrutinize enough, I can see a little speck sometimes from the side, but it’s covered by one of the prongs. If there was a giant inclusion right on the face of the diamond, I definitely would have kept looking. But I think combining size and quality to get what you really want in your price range sounds like a great idea!
Post # 13
I think you should try to find a middle way.
Is the setting or the stone more important to you? If you like a specific setting, maybe there’s a stone with an inclusion that will be hidden by the setting. If you like yellow gold, warmer colored diamonds can look lovely, they don’t need to look “dirty”.
Post # 14
@KatNYC2011: Absolutely! This is great advice!!
Post # 15
I understand; I have a size 8.5/9 finger, and when I wear rings with little stones it makes my fingers look gigantic. I personally went with an asha, because I wanted a stone much bigger than we will be able to afford for the next decade or so…
But if SO was against ashas for some reason, I think I would try, as others have said, to do go somewhere along the middle. Most people cannot tell the difference between a D color, VVS1 diamond and a H color, SI1 diamond from far away. Of course if you held them up next to each other, you’d see, but on a hand it will look very white and beautiful. Something to remember though, is that cut is where all the sparkle comes from. So if you went even lower and bought a I/J/K colored diamond with an excellent cut, it would look just as white (from the top) as a poor or good cut F/G.
Post # 16
I think quality overrules quantity hands down. However, you can find a lower quality stone that’s more toward the size your aiming for as long as it’s cut well. I agree with other people who recommended an SI2 stone. I have one and I can’t see anything but sparkle!