Post # 1
Can you bees please help me??? my SO and I have been talking about the recpetion and the wedding in general. We live in Miami and eveything here is not cheap… He wants a lavish wedding with a few people, I want something big and affordable but nice.
Our budget is $10,000 for 40-75 people…. I honestly am conflicted with this whole idea and I don’t know what to do… We have found some places that are within our budget but also meets our lavish wants…
Post # 3
Have you made you guest lists yet? What if you made a guest list for the “small” wedding, then make the guest list you want for the “big” wedding, then meet in the middle?
Then it’s in the middle?
Post # 4
Agree with EJS. Set a firm guest list and then you’ll be able to price shop for everything, and figure out a way to make both of you happy. Good luck!
Post # 5
the middle is 60-75… when I mentioned 75, he was like “what?” i thought we had discussed less… i wanted 125 and he wanted 50…
Post # 6
I would say pick identify the number of people you would have at a “small” wedding and the number of people at a “larger” wedding. How different is this number? Does this mean dear aunt sally can’t come? Can you deal with that?
Also, look at the budget and define what you and your Fiance want by “lavish”. Does that mean a $100 centerpiece on every table? Or would your Fiance maybe be just as happy with $50 centerpieces so Aunt Sally can come.
I would vote that there should be a mix. You don’t want to cut your guest list so far you can’t include close people (nor would I want to spend literally HUNDREDS of dollars on every guest) but I also think you can have a very nice, classy wedding with more people.
Post # 7
But if you make out that guest list, it’ll help him see why the guest list is 75. Because I know my Mother-In-Law handed me a list of 85 people for her guest list and I was like, “who the hell are these people?!?!” and I made Darling Husband sit down and tell me who every single person was and why they were invited. Grandparents, great grandparents, cousin of so and so, family friend, boss, etc. It helped me realize very quickly that 85 people wasn’t a ridiculous number. But it sounded HUGE to me. maybe that’s what your Fiance is thinking?
We had 125 at our wedding and it was definigely not as big in real life as it seemed it would be in my head. But truthfully, I could’ve happy cut like 40 people and not known the difference.
Post # 8
I was a Miami bride and we had a similar budget. We started the guest list at 60 and it went up to 75 which put us in about the 12500-13000 range. 60 is plenty of people – but you have to stick to a firm guest list. We only uped the guest list because we realized how good we did with everything else budget wise and because my parent’s gifted us my photographer ($400 – I got a super deal as her first Miami bride), my bridal shower and the cigar roller. So really we spent 1000 less than that. Anyways, especially in Miami where everything is expensive you have to stick to your small guest list – QUALITY definitely over quantity – trust me, we are so glad we did it because we had everything we wanted and those by our side ( not those we hadnt heard from in years that only come around for a free plate ever so often) on our special day.
Our venue was the Links on Key Biscayne – you can glam that place up in so many ways – I DIY’d alot and I highly recommend it – and being on weddingbee you have come to the right place. If I planned a wedding, while working and attending law school and commuting 30 mins to school three times a week – anyone can DIY some stuff and cut back on budget accordingly.
If you need any recommendations, let me know. But be strong on the guest list & there’s tons of places you can get by on in Miami. Consider the Keys as well – although there is high rental fees the food is cheap per person – Pierre’s in Islamorada is what I am talking about. But if you want indoors, dont know where to lead you.
Post # 9
I agree that it is really hard to just throw out numbers without looking at the guest list. Identify who would be on the 50 person guest list (immediate family and limited friends) and who would be on the 125 guest list (family including aunts, uncles, cousins, all your friends, etc). Decide which list would make you feel better about your day.
Our guest list is 200 and we probably could have cut it back to closer to 100 but below 100 I would have felt like we were missing people we really wanted to be part of our day.