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posted 9 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

Yup. I’m in charge of planning the actual wedding. My Fiance is in charge of finding the place to get civilly married for a good budget (including any of the 5 states that currently allow it or flying to Canada). She’s also in charge of the honeymoon. 😉 Plus when the laws change federally, we won’t have to get married AGAIN. What a big pain.

P.S. Not sure if you realize this, but “official” isn’t really the reason. It has to do with legalities and protections. We’ll also have to get paperwork drawn up for the states that won’t recognize the marriage.

Post # 4
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We certainly did.  We got married in Massachusetts, at a time when Maryland was not recognizing same-sex marriage.  As a bonus, a few months after the wedding, the Maryland attorney general issued an opinion that same-sex marriages performed in other states in which it is legal will be recognized in Maryland.  At that point, we didn’t have to go back and have a second wedding–ours was already recognized.

Post # 5
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Yes, it was and is very important to us that our wedding be legal and official, even though we live in Texas (which would probably secede before ever acknowledging same sex marriage!)

It’s been a huge pain and has resulted in a lot of explaing to people WHY we are going to such lengths (marrying in Iowa) but it’s worth it.

Besides, we’re actually considering moving to Iowa now… it’s my FI’s home state anyway.  If not there, then possibly eventually another state where it is recognized (though they seem to be the priciest places to live so it might be a while!)… 🙂


Post # 6
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Luckily we live in a state in which gay marriage is legal. We have played around with getting married in Maine. Should that happen we plan to just have us and our parents and siblings at the courthouse the Thursday afternoon before we head to Maine for our wedding.

Post # 7
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heritage Square Museum

It wasn’t super important to us, because many of the rights/protections aren’t exactly transferable. Also in California, our domestic partnership laws cover about what would be transferable, if that makes sense. DP is of course in NO WAY comparable to federally recognized marriage, but I think it’s safe to say that no matter where you wed in the US right now, getting a lawyer and drawing up some protections is super important.

We do plan to legally wed as soon as California pulls its head out of its ass. So it is (really) important to us, but we don’t feel the need to travel/wed right now.

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