(Closed) Question about a guest in wheelchair?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@MrsGatito:  If he normally sits in a regular chair or on the couch rather than in his chair at functions, I would provide him with a chair and let him decide whether he wants to use it or not.

Post # 5
899 posts
Busy bee

Yes leave the chair, give him the option.

Post # 6
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsGatito:  I don’t think it’s a weird question to ask – it shows you care about him and are taking his comfort into consideration. Especially since he’s been to family events, you must know him fairly well?

If you’re really uncomfortable asking, I would set up the tables so that he has a lot of space behind his setting to manouvre in and out. If possible, have it backing onto a wall (otherwise guests at adjacent tables might move their chairs out and compromise his space). Then I would leave his chair up against the wall behind his place setting – so he can choose to grab it if he wants it, or leave it there if not. This will most likely make him comfortable too because he won’t have to be either (a) asking someone for a chair or (b) asking someone where to put his chair if he doesn’t want it.

Post # 7
46597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsGatito:  I would ask him “Do you prefer we leave the dining chair in place for you or would you rather us leave a space for the wheelchair?

Post # 8
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MrsGatito:  i would leave the chair in his spot and that way it gives him the opportunity to decide if he wants the chair or his wheelchair.  the chair can be easily moved if necessary.

i would also make sure that he is seated at an outside table with easy access.  that way he doesn’t have to maneuver between the tables.

Post # 9
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Have a chair for him. If he doesn’t want to sit in the chair I am sure he will ask the waiter to remove it. Leave the decision up to him on the day.

I think it is important however to think about where he will be sitting. Is there easy access for him and the wheelchair, is there space for him to keep his wheelchair by his seat.

Post # 11
90 posts
Worker bee

I’ve spent enough time in a wheelchair (thankfully, for me, a temporary necessity) to tell you they are not comfortable. There’s just no support or cushion, and eventually your bum hurts. Fer realz. I think having an option would be great.

Post # 13
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsGatito:  My grandma uses a wheelchair and we had a separate chair for her at our wedding, just in case she didn’t want to stay in the wheelchair. She did end up using the other chair for a short period of time, because as others have said, the wheelchair isn’t that comfortable.

Post # 14
2517 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Definitely ask him.  I have both a cousin and an uncle who use/used wheelchairs.  Neither of them get/got out at public/family functions. My uncle passed from ALS, getting in and out of his chair was a difficult ordeal and required at least one other person who’s trained in lifts and assists.  My cousin (who has a completely unrelated degenerative muscle disease) rarely gets out for a similar reason – its too difficult and cumbersome to do it.  And it definitely attracts a lot of unwanted attention and fuss.  

But if he’s in a wheelchair for a different reason (perhaps where transfers from the chair are  easier or his upper body isn’t affected) he might like the opportunity to get out of the chair.  

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