(Closed) Question about abstinence

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am waiting…. hoping to be successful!

Post # 4
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4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

so far! 10 months down 5 to go! πŸ™‚

but we are both virgins. I’ve heard (and seen in my friends) if one or both of the couple aren’t virgins, then decide to try and wait, it will be VERY hard.

Post # 5
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We waited and made it! 

Post # 7
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We’ve been together for almost six years and are waiting for the wedding night. Less than two months! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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3402 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This is kind of unrelated.. But my Boyfriend or Best Friend & I were trying to wait until marriage (okay, I WAS, he WASN’T lol) and we failed 1.5 months in.. I was a virgin, he was not. I actually feel like waiting can be pretty amazing because it really builds a sexual frustration inside that is great to unleash when it finally happens. The fact that you aren’t a virgin and are trying to wait until your wedding night pretty much gaurentees an absolutely blissful honeymoon :] my Boyfriend or Best Friend & I are actually going to do a 2 week abstinence of our own so that we can kind of “re-live” that first time experience (sorry for Too Much Information lol)..

Post # 11
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2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

We waited till marriage for lots of reasons, and were both virgins prior to getting married.  I am very, very glad we did.  I realize that it’s not what everyone chooses, and to each their own, but for us it was definitely the right choice. 

Post # 12
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Kat: We did the same thing! We stopped a few months out from our wedding date and failed miserably. 

Post # 13
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Fiance isn’t a virgin, but I am. Waiting doesn’t line up with his moral code really, but he respects me enough to wait with me :). Unless we both get drugged or something, lol, I can’t imagine us not making it since we’ve waited thus far!

Post # 14
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5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

We are and plan on making it. I do know a lot of my friends who did/are waiting for marriage, it is possible. It just takes effort.

Post # 15
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1058 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have been waiting all my life…..Smile We are waiting until we are married to kiss, touch, or do anything sexual. So, far we are doing a great job of course with God’s help. Therefore, I would say we count for being ones who are waiting. However, we do believe it will be well worth it!

Post # 16
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3402 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly, I think one of the biggest things about waiting is that it should be a mutual decision between both partners. It’s a lot harder when you feel like the only one “waiting” for that special moment, & it makes it QUITE a bit easier to just say “oh screw it!” (pun funny intended ;] )

Ohh & to @jenk00004:, I think it’s cute that you failed in a wierd way, I mean, isn’t that kind of what we wish for!? If the tension is there before the waiting period is over, it just means your goal was achieved before deadline! πŸ˜›

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