- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
So… My brother in law (FI’s brother) is planning the party – which is still over a year away! He’s ridiculously excited to plan this event for his little brother which I totally get.
My question is about the expense. My brother in law makes very good money and my Fiance planned his bachelor party last year and did a fabulous job. However, like my brother in law, most of his friends also make very good money and as they’re all just over 30, they’re mostly established in their careers, have homes, wives etc.
My Fiance just finished school and hasn’t found a job yet (not that he’ll be paying), and most of his friends are either just starting out in their careers, or are still working towards building a career and thus make enough money, but not rolling in it by any means. None of his friends own their homes yet, none are married, etc etc.
My brother in law has tentatively suggested renting an RV for the 8 or 9 of them for $1600, leaving on a friday and heading to Niagara Falls for one night and then moving from there to Buffalo for 2 additional nights where they will tail gate and take in a Bills game. The estimated expense split between the guys will be about $350 each (that’s including a $500 donation from his mom) and that DOES NOT include alcohol or food.
I think it’s kind of outrageous… A bachelor party is only supposed to be one night! (granted for some of them this will be like an 8+ hour drive so I understand extending it to 2 nights for that reason) but 4 days and 3 nights seems excessive.
I keep telling them this and my Fiance says it’s up to his brother since he’s planning it… and I told his brother this weekend I think it’s too much, but his brother is very much a man’s man and wants things to be a certain way. My sister’s bf who is older (37) and will be a groomsman told me tonight that it’s WAY too much and he doesn’t think it’s right that they all should be spending like $500 on a bachelor party. I very much agree…
How do I make my Fiance and his brother understand this? Am I right or is this normal?
my bachelorette will in no way be this excessive. I just want one night of laughs and drinks and dancing with my girls. why does it need to be so extravagant?
I understand wanting to go to the tailgating parties and the Bills game, but why not just drive down and get a cheap hotel room?
Help!!! Please!! Am I right that this is too expensive and they should tone it down? How do I make them realize this too?